Perspective

This makes me sad. I can't imagine what you and your wife are feeling. I'm very sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss, thanks for sharing something so personal and difficult.

You hit the nail on the head, my friend. It's just a damn game. We could go 0-12 every year for the next century and it really changes nothing in our lives. The sun will still come up tomorrow morning. Watching a team lose a football game is a bummer, but it is not a tragedy. Far from it. Losing a loved one is a tragedy, and I'm so sorry you had to go through something like this. No parent should ever have to bury their child. 

I hope you and your wife can one day find peace in everything that's happened. Take all the time you both need for yourselves, as you're both going to need each other now more than ever. Should you ever decide to come back to the blog, you can bet we'll all be here waiting for you. 

Sobering story and brave of you share.  I don't know you personally and yet I'm sitting here at my desk tearing up.  And you're absolutely right, the outcome of a football game is nothing compared to the health and welfare of a child.

If there was a petition that would trade off a couple of 0-12 Michigan seasons to ensure the safe and healthy delivery of your next child, let me know where to sign.

My condolences to you and your family.

We went through something similar (but earlier in the pregnancy) between our two kids. It was probably the hardest time we went through, but we supported each other and it brought us closer together, ultimately. If you ever need someone to talk to about it outside of your family, drop me a line.

God bless you and your family at this terrible time

May the road rise up to meet you. May the wind always be at your back. Godspeed.

I can't even begin to understand what you and your wife must be feeling.  As a parent, I am so sorry for your loss.  I hope that you both find confort after this horrible tragedy.  

Don't be a stranger here on MGoBlog.  While I am sure that this loss gave you a ton of perspective, it is important for you and your wife not to completely abandon those things that previously brought you happiness.  After my dad died a sudden and unexpected death, I also lost my excitement for a number of things.  I found that with time, it was important to reconnect with things that previously brought me happiness.  Hope to see you back here soon.

So sorry for your loss. 

Like everyone else, I'm very sorry to read this.  I'm sure this will always be painful, but I hope you and your wife - with time - can eventually be at peace with the pain.  If you don't mind me offering advice, take care of yourselves and let yourselves grieve.  There will be no right way to handle this.  Just do what works for the two of you. 

And thank you for reminding us that Michigan sports are only so important in the grand scheme of things.  It must have been extraordinarily difficult to post this, and you did us all a favor.

Again, hang in there.  We'll all be rooting for you and your family.

My thoughts are with you and your family, friend. Take care.

and I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I was astonished when I learned how many women (and their men, by extension) suffer from similar situations. Because it is something that happens frequently enough, there are many resources of support for you and your wife. I suspect you already know that, but nurses can be great sources of local support information.

 I hope that as you two grieve. you know that you are not alone, and that we care.

EYB,

Hopefully you don't leave too soon and miss all the love and support being shown from MGoBlog community. We may get grumpy about sports sometimes, but boy does this community rally around each other in tough times. Thoughts and prayers EYB.

Same thing happened to us almost 30 years ago. Not nearly as far along as your daughter was, but it still hurts to this day.

Sorry for your loss. Thanks for the perspective. And thanks again for sharing. This is a DEEPLY personal tragedy, and we're here for you as much as we can be.

perspective...keep it in mind.

Sorry, man.  Yes, this does put things into perspective, how fragile life is and the everyday miracles that we often take for granted.  Words won't take away the sting of it, only time can do that, but thanks for helping us all reassess our fandom a little.    

Dude I am so so so sorry for you and your wife’s loss. It’s really important to remember before we spew a bunch of bile on the internet about a bunch of young men that don’t even know we exist that none of this really truly matters. We think it does and sometimes it feels like it does, but there are things happening in each of our personal lives that actually matter.

My wife and I had a first trimester miscarriage last year and it was brutal. I can’t even imagine a loss in the third trimester. We were lucky enough to get pregnant soon after and now have a happy, healthy three-month old girl. Keep your head up, man. Things are awful now and likely will be for a bit. But it gets better. I promise.

I'm so sad for you and your wife.  Nobody ever deserves to go through that.  What little comfort we can offer is that we are all here for you.  We are all family and when one of us hurts we all feel it.  Keep the faith as best as you can.

 

 

Is 9 months and counting with our daughter. I am at a loss for words right now, so sorry

It seems you and your wife have the right priorities, but the pain you are feeling must be beyond the belief or understanding of those of us lucky enough to have never experienced it.  Good luck to you and your wife (and your other children).  I have always enjoyed your comments and hope you will continue to be on the board when the time is right.

I know from experience what a terrible blow that is.  I am so sorry and I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it gets better.  

So sorry at your devastating loss. I too have found myself often thinking about perspective, and the amount of time given to following football, and the emotional investment in Michigan's team. Great post by you reminding all of us abfout what is really important.

My prayers are with you, and with your wife, and your family. Again, I am so sorry at this tragedy you have personally experienced.

So sorry at your devastating loss. I too have found myself often thinking about perspective, and the amount of time given to following football, and the emotional investment in Michigan's team. Great post by you reminding all of us abfout what is really important.

My prayers are with you, and with your wife, and your family. Again, I am so sorry at this tragedy you have personally experienced.

My heart goes out to you, EYB. I can't imagine the pain you're going through.

This does put football into perspective. Never unstood the complete melt down vs. Staying positive and how that translates to outsiders including recruits. Constructive input is always welcome

May you and your wife heal and find the strength to try again.

Thank you for sharing a moment of you (and wife's) life with us, even if it was such a terrible moment of pain.  No words can truly make this better, but you are in our thoughts and prayers.

This really sucks, I am really sorry for your terrible loss, and know that we are all pulling for you and your family. 

Damn. Condolences.

My deepest sympathies and take care of your family. 

God bless you and your wife. From the bottom of my heart. Be strong man.

I could not imagine what you are going through. I am so sorry.

My second son is set to arrive in January and this really hits home.

Life is real. Football is just a diversion.

 

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Sorry for your loss.   Hope all goes well w/your family moving forward.

Perspective indeed, people get so upset over college football.  At the end of the day, it's just college kids chasing a ball, and little more.

I'm so sorry for your loss.  All my condolences & good wishes to you and your wife & other children.  May your baby girl rest in peace.

OMG I am so terribly, terribly sorry, Brutus.  Football is utterly irrelevant compared to this. May you and your wife be able to find comfort in family and friends in this very sad and difficult time.

Im so sorry evenyoubrutus.  I hope that there is some kind of cosmic reason for things like that happening.  Or maybe they just happen without our control and that is part of the human experienc.  Ether way, God Bless you, your wife and family. 

I had written a pretty long response, then my phone went crazy and deleted it. So I will write a smaller post. My wife and I lost our first born, Atlas, on may 16 a few hours after he was born. My wife joined a bunch of Facebook support groups for late stage pregnancy and infant loss, which has helped her a lot. She also got hooked on pregnancy update YouTube vlog to know what to expect though out the pregnancy. However, could not find any about losing a child, so she started her own. She also does videos geared towards family and friends of people who have lost a child because people inadvertently do or say things that are insensitive and hurtful while trying to be supportive because they just don't know what to say. I can give you a link so you can give it to your wife if you want. Other woman have reached out to her saying it has helped to know they are not alone and have posted some videos on their Facebook walls for family and friends to watch. As far as you and your wife as a couple, you need to communicate and be there for each other now more than ever. This seems obvious, but the divorce rate for people who have lost a child is ridiculous because people drift apart. From my perspective, it is largely because us men tend to not ever want to talk about how we feel and push emotions down. However, they come up eventually. Luckily I learned this the hard way after trying to internalize my experiences in combat and caused a lot of problems for my self and loved ones, so I refused to do that now. I would try to find local support groups, which we have been able to find some that meet a few times a month because, sadly losing children in late stage pregnancy or as infants and toddlers is happening at a far higher rate than people realize. If you need someone to talk to that understands what you are going through you can contact me anytime. Stay strong brother.

No one should ever have to experience this. I don't have the words. My heart goes out to you and your wife. 

My hope is for nothing but good to happen for you going forward. God bless you, my friend.