Perspective

Submitted by evenyoubrutus on

Like the rest of you I was devastated after the Penn State game. I was grumpy and grouchy and I grumbled and moped around a lot. When I went to bed Saturday night my wife mentioned to me that something didn't feel right. The baby hadn't moved much and she felt some weird pains, but she figured it was early labor signs. After all, she was full term and similar things had happened with her other pregnancies as well. If things didn't improve by morning we would have to go in.

She woke me up at 6 am Sunday and told me she hadn't felt the baby moving and she was in a lot of pain. We went as fast as we could into the hospital and the moment the nurse put the probe on, we knew. There was no sound of the baby squirming away from the probe, no faint thumping of a tiny heart. Doctors rushed in and put an ultrasound probe on her belly, and the whole medical team was silent. My wife finally yelled out, "Is there a heartbeat?" Nobody wanted to answer.

Our daughter was gone.

The doctors assured us that what happened was not preventable. There were no signs and she wasn't even considered at risk. Even if it had happened at the hospital they could not have saved her.

I know that it's depressing to see what is happening to our football team. I used to think that Michigan football was as important to me as anything, but I was wrong. We could lose the rest of our games this year and I won't care. At the end of the day, while we all love this sport and this team, it is still just a game. I'll be signing off for a while. I don't know what the future brings, or if I will ever be back. I only wanted to tell all of you because folks around here tend to notice when an active user goes MIA.

Go blue, and God bless you all.

EYB

Durham Blue

October 25th, 2017 at 10:32 PM ^

As someone who has gone through three miscarriages with my wife, I feel your pain.  The last one was at 18 weeks.  I can't imagine going full term and having this happen.

I am so sorry for your loss.  I hope you can take some solace in knowing that your MGoBlog family here that took the time to read about this horrible news is thinking about you and your wife...me especially.

We hope to see you back soon.  I, for one, really enjoy your witty posts.  Take care.

Winchester Wolverine

October 25th, 2017 at 11:07 PM ^

I know "sorry" can't or won't fix anything, but... I'm sorry. From the bottom of my heart, I hope the absolute best for you and your family. Take care, brother. I hope to see you on here again soon.

Other Andrew

October 26th, 2017 at 3:25 AM ^

I am so very sorry to hear this, eyb. Incredibly sad to hear.

There are no words any of us can say here that will make anything much better. But looking through all these comments know that the largely anonymous community here cares about you, and your story has touched everyone here. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Un fuerte abrazo

McSomething

October 26th, 2017 at 5:45 AM ^

After the Michigan State loss lead many on this board to turn on one another so viciously I decided I had posted enough for this season. Seeing this really shocks me to my core, I had to log back in to post. As a guy that found out a few weeks ago his fiance is pregnant, I hope to god I never have to know your pain or sorrow. My sincerest condolences to you and yours.

bcnihao

October 26th, 2017 at 8:46 AM ^

Words are insufficient, but I'm so sorry about your heartbreaking loss.  I hope that things go as best they can, for both you and your wife, during this difficult time.

rob f

October 26th, 2017 at 8:24 PM ^

I just saw a reference in a new thread tonight to you having to go through a tragedy, so I clicked on your username and finally just learned of what happened. I'm honestly on the verge of tears after reading of your ordeal. Please accept my most sincere condolences, as I offer them too especially to your wife, but also to your entire family and friends. Though we're one big mostly anonymous community, I feel like you're much more a close friend than stranger. My prayers are with you as you and your wife try to make sense of what you're going through. Hang in there, bud.

Funchessoffun

October 27th, 2017 at 8:16 PM ^

Hopefully the hundreds of supportive comments from people who mostly only know you as an avatar - can help you realize how much good is actually out there. Hopefully that can help you get through this. It is just a message board but, man, look at all these people willing to help you if you need us.

ABOUBENADHEM

October 30th, 2017 at 8:00 AM ^

I'm just seeing this having chosen to stay away from the negative insanity of this blog after the 2 losses. My heart just aches for you and your wife. May God be with you and your family. I hope you do come back. Will miss your contributions.

mgoyaya

October 30th, 2017 at 12:46 PM ^

Always appreciate your posts. Joined just to let you know I'm so sorry to hear the heartbeaking news. Extending deepest sympathy and may God rest your little angel's soul and give you and your wife strength and peace. 

mgoyaya

October 30th, 2017 at 12:47 PM ^

Always appreciate your posts. Joined just to let you know I'm so sorry to hear the heartbeaking news. Extending deepest sympathy and may God rest your little angel's soul and give you and your wife strength and peace.