Please help me settle an internal dilemma

Submitted by rainingmaize on November 2nd, 2018 at 2:02 PM

So in case you have been living under a rock, UM plays PSU this weekend. I really want to watch the game, but I have a potential conflict that I'm debating if I should skip out on or not. Sorry if there are better things to talk about, but I'm curious what y'all would go with. 


Conflict: Potentially cousins last HS football game (playoff game) 

Additional information: 

1.) I moved out to the West Coast last year (moved from Michigan), and met distant family out here (my grandpa's sisters family). Last year was my first time ever meeting them, but they have welcomed me with open arms, and I've been trying to make up for lost time, since I plan to be out here a while.

2.) Family lives 2.5 hrs from me, however playoff game will be played 15 min from my apartment. Because of distance, I don't see them a ton. I think I've only seen them on Thanksgiving. Mothers day weekend, Fathers day.

3.) I won't be in town for Thanksgiving this year. So I may not see them for a bit.

4.) Not particularily close with the cousin, Cousin's mom invited me

5.) Player in question is an important player on the team (starting RB)

6.) Michigan games are a family thing for me. My dad and brother have a regular group chat going during big games. 

7.) I don't have DVR.


Big Boutros

November 2nd, 2018 at 2:04 PM ^

Go to your cousin's game. The Michigan game will be easy to watch in full afterwards, regardless of DVR. It will be on the ESPN app or YouTube or Pistachio Network Flex on the Haters.

L'Carpetron Do…

November 2nd, 2018 at 2:46 PM ^

Go to the HS game (or tell them to come over beforehand?) , tell your cousin's family you might take off early to catch the end of the Mich game. Monitor on your phone. If M is close you can boogie out towards the end of the HS game (hoping your cousin's team is winning in a blowout). If M is up big you can stay at the HS game.


November 2nd, 2018 at 2:05 PM ^

Skip the game and watch Michigan. But come up with a good excuse. Cold and flu season is here, and you are running a 103 fever and don't want others to get sick... 


November 2nd, 2018 at 2:07 PM ^

3 thoughts:

1) You likely will be able to watch the game via the world wide webs

2) Prioritize people over all else

3) Make a decision! Decide now! Even a bad decision is likely better than the slow torture of pondering a question and then half-assing it. And don't question your decision unless there's a good reason (i.e., new facts are discovered, not just someone complaining).

4th and Go For It

November 2nd, 2018 at 2:08 PM ^

My vote: Put your phone on airplane mode, catch the full game later on replay.  Go to your cousin’s game. I’d always vote connecting with people, esp family, over watching a game on TV. Especially this one since we will dismantle PSU and it’ll be fun to watch afterwards when the outcome isn’t in doubt.


November 2nd, 2018 at 2:08 PM ^

Family comes first, but that's just me.

You could play it by ear at the game—if it's a blowout either way, you might be able to leave in the 3rd Q without looking like a jerk.

You also should be able to keep up on the Michigan game on espn on your phone. They have pretty frequent updating with their gamecast feature.

Wolverine In Iowa 68

November 2nd, 2018 at 2:09 PM ^

Family first.  Your cousin won't play HS football ever again, Michigan will play PSU every year, and BTN will probably air the game in a 60 minute highlight format.  Go to your cousin's game.


November 2nd, 2018 at 2:10 PM ^

Coming up with being sick during an important game reveals your motives. Your decisions are your own. Make the best! GoBlue! 


*by the way I've watched plenty of important Michigan games after them being played on DVR, or other avenues without them being spoiled. 


November 2nd, 2018 at 2:11 PM ^

My emotional side says fuck your cousin, watch the Michigan game live. 

However, my logical side says we could use the good karma of a Michigan fan not watching the Michigan game to see their distant cousin play his final football game. That's probably a 4 point karmic swing for us.

Definitely go to the game.

FL Blue

November 2nd, 2018 at 2:11 PM ^

You can't get time back. I'm a football junkie and will be shutting my phone off, attending a wedding and then watch when I get home. Go spend time with your family instead of watching young men play a game. I'm 37 and wouldn't have given this advice even a couple years ago.

Snake Eyes

November 2nd, 2018 at 2:13 PM ^

Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but couldn't he sign up for a free trial of one of the streaming TV services, record the game via their DVR service, and then cancel?


November 2nd, 2018 at 2:14 PM ^

I see no dilemma here at all. Go to your cousin's game, period. You will feel bad about yourself if you watch the Michigan game, particularly when it's over. 


November 2nd, 2018 at 2:17 PM ^

How is this a question?  You go with family first, and always.  There are a myriad of ways to watch the game afterwards...

But, uhh, how the hell do you not have a DVR?  I thought those were standard issue, anymore?!!?