OT: Jim Harbaugh's Guide To Marital Bliss
“I’ve reached the point where I do everything my wife tells me to do, I do it exactly how she tells me to do it, and I do it that way, over and over and over again, I try not to screw it up,” he said. “I’ve found that brings happiness and have enjoyed quite a bit of success with that formula. I will continue down that path.”I wish I'd learned that 33 years ago.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:44 PM ^
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but if that's what you're into, great!
February 5th, 2016 at 1:37 PM ^
(and with the disclaimer that I'm not actually married myself but in a 12-year relationship)
Yes, marriage takes work. But if you're doing it right, most of the time it doesn't feel like work.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:41 PM ^
Married 3 years, and clearly what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I'm just posting because I read the OP as "Jim Harbaugh's guide to MARTIAL bliss", and wanted to find out whether he was pro-nunchuk or anti-nunchuk.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:58 PM ^
No one has ever been anti-nunchuk. That's crazy talk.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:41 PM ^
Jim Harbaugh has been married and divorced before, so I hope he has found a winning formula. The thing is, he doesn't really know, and he won't know until the kids are grown and she still decides to hang with him. Neither of them knows for sure, it's always a work in progress. I'm just glad he feels happy and confident it's working, hopefully she does too.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:41 PM ^
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February 5th, 2016 at 1:45 PM ^
Jim Harbaugh has a 7 figure salary and is almost never home. Not sure how his marriage advice would apply to any of us.
Except maybe mGrowOld, who also has a hot wife and a lot of money.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:46 PM ^
If your mate asks your opinion on something, and you have no strong feeling as regards alternatives presented, it is much, MUCH safer to say "I have no preference." Simply saying "I don't care" can occasionally lead to hurt feelings (or worse).
February 5th, 2016 at 2:01 PM ^
This reminded me of the importance of the difference between "I'm sorry" and "I apologize" while at a funeral.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:47 PM ^
I mean I love my wife, but I don't think she is a very good decision maker in certain situations (she married me, amirite!?). If I was to follow Jim's advise on this, I would likely be broke (amongst other things). I find myself in those certain situations to challenge her and, when possible, try to convince her to do the exact opposite of what she wants to do. It's hard, but it works. And for the betterment of both of us.
We'll see how long I can get away with it.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:55 PM ^
Some pretty funny responses here. As a wife, I want to know that my husband can handle anything thrown his way, all the difficult stuff life has to offer, and if he doesn't know how, he at least knows how to ask for help. I want him to respect my opinions and listen, but to speak up if he disagrees and have a conversation about it. I wouldn't want a man who just rolls over and does every thing I say. And I certainly don't need a man to be my leader. Sometimes in a situation, like talking to our kids' coaches, my husband just does a better job because he's played sports. He talks the talk. Other times, I'm better at the task at hand.
Advice to unmarrieds: make sure you know how the two of you fight and solve problems before you get married. Have stuff in common besides sex and wanting a family. Marry someone who's smart, but who doesn't always need to be smarter than you. Make sure you really like each other.
February 5th, 2016 at 2:05 PM ^
This.
February 5th, 2016 at 4:45 PM ^
At the heart of it (and, I think, of many of the other responses) is a mutual respect, trust, candor, and discretion.
In my 10 years of marriage, I've had to improve showing discretion, but I'd like to think all of those elements are there. I can easily say that my marriage keeps getting better.
February 5th, 2016 at 1:54 PM ^
and learning apply in all situations of life, especially with women, and the one whom you've chosen to spend your life with. When you learn how to love and appreciate her, the benefits come back in ways you cannot imagine.
Live. lust and learn. It's a guidepost for life, liberty and the pursuit of passion and joy. Find a loving woman and make her feel loved physically, emotionally and spiritually, and you will complain like a rich man paying taxes, it will hurt only because of what's been taken from the value of your investment. She is alwaysthe centerpiece of your net worth.
February 5th, 2016 at 2:01 PM ^
My wife and I will enjoy our 25th wedding anniversary in about a week (woohoo!). In my experience, marriage involves a ton of compromise on both parts. If she’d rather see The Choice (i.e. the latest chick flick) than Dirty Grandpa tonight, then I’m good with that because she knows to stay out of my way on Michigan Football Saturday, no matter how many chores there are for me on that damn list in her head.
So you could describe that as “I do everything my wife tells me to do” but it’s also true that she’ll do everything I tell her to do too.
And to point out the obvious, Mrs. Harbaugh V2 very much supported Jim’s desire to leave the sunny climes of California and move to Ann Arbor. She did, in effect, do what he wanted her to do (thank God!).
I think Harbaugh was trying to be more funny than exact. It would have been better to use “wants” instead of “tells.”
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Whoever owns the vagina makes the rules.
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Aero grad?
February 5th, 2016 at 2:51 PM ^
Friday night drinking thread?
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not something you feel.
Coach knows this.
February 5th, 2016 at 2:57 PM ^
is going on here?!
/stillmarried
//it'salltrue
February 5th, 2016 at 3:13 PM ^
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February 5th, 2016 at 3:56 PM ^
In our house, we have a different rule. You can have it done exactly the way you want it done, OR you can let someone else do it. You don't get both.
Married 18 years.
February 5th, 2016 at 4:36 PM ^
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February 5th, 2016 at 4:26 PM ^
My wife and I had one agreement before we got married. Death or Prison. If we got married, that was the only way out. If both of us couldn't agree to those terms of a relationship which meant one would be dead and the other would be in prison, we agreed we shouldn't get married in the first place. It's worked for 9 years and only a few times have we come close to using that rule.
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February 5th, 2016 at 4:35 PM ^
In return, she's gonna learn just how you like to watch M games and make sure you get to. She's going to let you plan what that flower bed looks like- she WANTS you to.
You're gonna ask her to buy fewer knickknacks so the budget is less tight, and she's gonna ask if you can have a beer at home rather than the bar to free up some cash. And somewhere in the middle of doing chores for each other, she'll throw a sock at you, you'll chase her down, and the laundry can wait while there's sweet, sweet lovemaking.
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February 5th, 2016 at 4:43 PM ^
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February 5th, 2016 at 5:37 PM ^
15 successful years. No idea how.
February 5th, 2016 at 11:33 PM ^
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February 5th, 2016 at 9:37 PM ^
"Who do you think has more freedom? The married man in America, or the single man in China?
I'm going with the single man in China. The single man in China can leave the house, but not the country. The married man in America can leave the country, but not the house."
-Larry David
All kidding aside, I told my friend after I was married a while that marriage is all about compromise. He said you've got to be kidding me, why would you ever get married? Five years later, after he had been married a while, he told me he knew exactly what I meant by compromise.
It's amazing how your perspective can change 180 degrees.
February 5th, 2016 at 10:18 PM ^
it is called training. you are the trainee not the trainer
February 5th, 2016 at 11:35 PM ^
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