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07/19/2018 - 4:43pm Have to say, when I saw this…

Have to say, when I saw this, I wasn't as angry as I was, say, two years ago when reporters were saying he wouldn't last in college. Not that I want him to leave - I don't - but if that were to happen, I think we have a better perspective of what we'd be losing. 

07/18/2018 - 10:34pm Some people just genetically…

Some people just genetically can't get six pack abs. Then there's those who, no matter what they eat or do, have six pack abs. Plus, the guy is 40. I don't see the big deal. 

07/18/2018 - 3:07pm Zingerman's was at its best…

Zingerman's was at its best when I was in school, in the late 80's. It was in the small brick building with maybe four tables and a great cheese and deli counter. 

07/16/2018 - 10:20pm I posted the other food…

I posted the other food thread because it's easier for me to pick one than to pick five. But here goes. Every pick has to be the best in its category, e.g. not just steak, but the best steak. 


1. spaghetti and meatballs. 

2. fruit pie with ice cream (preferably apple or peach)

3. cheeseburger

4. egg rolls, the kind with brown blistered wrappers, fried in peanut oil, and served with hot mustard sauce. 

5. fish tacos

07/16/2018 - 10:02pm No, but you probably don't…

No, but you probably don't believe me. 

07/16/2018 - 4:12pm I absolutely did not see the…

I absolutely did not see the other post. Great minds or something like that. 

07/15/2018 - 5:10pm I hate that campaign with…

I hate that campaign with the fire of a thousand suns. Why not just say, "Buy her love with jewelry." 

07/15/2018 - 5:08pm But the ring makes a…

But the ring makes a statement to other women. It says, "Look what that guy is willing to buy for his woman." So it elevates the status of both of them. Hot woman elevates his status to other guys, big ring elevates her status to other women. 

07/15/2018 - 5:05pm Yeah, it wasn't the…

Yeah, it wasn't the commitment-phobe thing. I could tell he wasn't going anywhere, and he didn't have one eye on me and the other on the door to see what cute girl was going to walk in next (I had dated that guy right before meeting my husband). It was, and still is, a way of weighing everything or putting everything off for forever because making the decision was just too painful. He's still the same. I make all the big decisions. He even has a hard time making small ones. Like he'll see a t-shirt he likes, think about it for three months, and then he'll say to me, "Remember that t-shirt I told you about? They ran out!!" My life's motto is "See It, Like It, Buy It." Worse case scenario, you return it. T-shirts or wives or husbands. 

07/15/2018 - 10:33am Women want them, men agree…

Women want them, men agree to buy them. Dude, have you never met a guy who was purely into having arm candy? The big ring just adds to the flashy package. 

07/15/2018 - 9:59am I probably would have…

I probably would have married him. It wasn't really about a specific date; it was more about a personality trait that I worried would make being married to him difficult for me - I'm very decisive, proactive, and sometimes impulsive. It all worked out. 

07/15/2018 - 7:22am Couldn't agree more. My ring…

Couldn't agree more. My ring is a cool rolling ring (three bands intertwined) with some very small diamonds and it's sitting in a safe deposit box because as it turns out, I took it off so much to wash my hands, I didn't want to lose it. I now just wear a plain $100 band. I've always thought those rings with big rocks on them look like a you could hit a golf ball off of them, like a golf tee. So ugly. And the bigger the diamond, the more I think of the relationship as an owner-type situation, like the husband is showing the world he can buy whatever he wants, including a woman. Just my opinion. 

07/14/2018 - 11:08pm We have a 120 year old house…

We have a 120 year old house that we rehabbed 20 years ago. We put in a chute -- it's just a sheet metal tube -- that runs from my husband's closet to the basement. Of course, we forgot about getting the clean laundry back upstairs. 

07/14/2018 - 11:01pm 1) Induction cooktop. I can…

1) Induction cooktop. I can't recommend this type of cooktop enough. I used to have a four burner professional gas slide in cooktop, but after doing a bunch of research, I decided to trade it in for this. It is sleek looking, so easy to clean and is better than gas. It heats up faster and is instantaneously responsive. It heats the pan, not the room. Only downside is that not all pans work with induction. Luckily, almost all of mine did. 

2) Sprinkler system. Big expense, but boy do we hate dragging the hose around the yard. 

3) An adjustable bed with a latex mattress. I love my bed now and sleep so well. Totally worth it. 

07/14/2018 - 10:43pm Here's my story. It's…

Here's my story. It's somewhat amazing I even ended up marrying my husband. 


We went ring shopping after we both decided we wanted to get married. My husband wanted to buy me something I'd actually like to wear, so I picked one out, and then I didn't hear anything for months. I started to become concerned that he couldn't pull the trigger. He was sort of that kind of guy at the time. Not afraid of commitment, but afraid of risk. So I set a date, thinking if he hadn't asked by then, he wasn't the guy for me. The date was June 30, and we had looked at rings the previous February or March. 

On June 26 (four days from the deadline), we drove to Milwaukee for one of his best friend's weddings. The friend was marrying an actress who was on a sitcom, and the whole cast was there, along with the creator/director, who was more famous than all of them put together. We went to the rehearsal dinner, which was at a restaurant with a bar. My husband's oldest friends from grade school were there, along with all these semi-famous actors. One of his friends, a big Irish guy, yelled out, "Hey, everyone, guess what Steve's(my husband) going to do this weekend?? He's going to ask Wendy to marry him!!" I look over at my husband, and he nods at me. I was like, "Really??? Really???" He wasn't expecting his best friend to propose to me for him, so he didn't have the ring on him. Everyone cheered anyway, he made it in under the wire, and we've been married 20 years. 

07/13/2018 - 11:16pm Ted Baxter and it's not even…

Ted Baxter and it's not even close.

07/12/2018 - 2:17pm A few weeks back, I posted…

A few weeks back, I posted about a lawsuit that's challenging Michigan's Bias Response Team on the grounds it's violating the first amendment. I had heard about the lawsuit on one of the political channels, from one of the more polarizing talking heads. This was news to me, and I wanted to know more from current students. Unsurprisingly, I got ripped a new one (I totally expected that to happen) but surprisingly, the name of the polarizing talking head was redacted. I did not support that person in the post, I merely cited him as my source. I offered no opinion or judgment in the post. I merely asked whether people knew about this, as it was a lawsuit involving the University of Michigan, my alma mater. I was actually stunned that the mod felt the need to redact the name, and respond as tersely as he did. That we can't even discuss something that directly pertains to Michigan (and in my opinion is not political in and of itself, but is used by people for their own political purposes) is really sad to me. 

07/12/2018 - 9:17am You should think about New…

You should think about New Zealand instead. South America you got drugs and corruption. New Zealand you have Game of Thrones and Lord of the Rings sets. I've obviously already looked into this. 

07/09/2018 - 11:17pm I'll be sitting on the edge…

I'll be sitting on the edge of the sofa, poised and ready to run out of the room, as is always the case when I watch Michigan football. I have a low pain tolerance, so getting behind by two scores would qualify as too painful to watch. My husband always stays and watches, and then will yell into the room I'm hiding in with scores or plays. He's a glass-half-full kind of guy so I prefer to hear it from him. 

07/05/2018 - 8:51pm While I love the flavors of…

While I love the flavors of buffalo wings (spicy, tangy sauce, blue cheese, and celery), I hate the chicken wings. Give me those flavors on chicken tenders and I'm good. 

07/05/2018 - 8:49pm Totally forgot about Freaks…

Totally forgot about Freaks and Geeks. Great show. 

07/04/2018 - 4:57pm I've been trying to decide…

I've been trying to decide what movie would be perfect for the maiden voyage of our backyard movie screen. Jaws is a great choice. For summer movies, I also like Raiders of the Lost Ark. Although some may think of it as a chick movie, Strictly Ballroom was good and funny. 

07/03/2018 - 10:26pm West Wing



West Wing


Mary Tyler Moore


Saturday Night Live


07/02/2018 - 8:00pm Evanston, IL



Evanston, IL


Easy access to Chicago by either car or the L

I live five blocks from the lake and beaches, and you can rent all sorts of water craft in the summer. 

Very diverse, which has been great for raising our kids. They're exposed to every race, religion, gender orientation, and economic status you can think of. There's not a lot of pressure to be like everyone else. Also, the high school offers something for everyone. Most kids find their place. 

If you're into Big Ten sports, Northwestern offers some reasonably good options and of course, when Michigan is in town, those tickets are easy to come by, save for football. 

It's a good mix of city and suburb. 



The weather. Winter sucks. Spring isn't so hot, either. We're a baseball family, and April, May and even June can be cold and awful. I've sat on many cold bleachers, wrapped in a blanket, watching my kids play ball. January, February and March are cold and dark, if you like that sort of thing. The fall is my favorite time but it's always too short. 

The infrastructure leaves much to be desired. Some of our facilities, the ice rink, for example, are literally crumbling. Other suburbs are way ahead of us in that department. 

Evanston businesses aren't thriving they way they should. You'd think a college town would be great place for restaurants, but they close all the time. It's only been in the past three or so years that we've noticed more restaurants opening and staying open. 

Traffic is getting worse. 







07/01/2018 - 8:49pm Hard to pick the three best,…

Hard to pick the three best, but these are definitely great ones. 


Leonardo da Vinci

The Dalai Lama (I saw him speak a few years ago and he radiated optimism and wisdom. I'm not a religious or even spiritual person, but it was truly a moving experience)

Susan B. Anthony


06/26/2018 - 7:53pm To me, worrying a lot is…

To me, worrying a lot is different from stress. Stress is in response to something and worrying a lot is anticipating something that hasn't happened yet. My son is a super worrier, which is stressful for me. He has learned how to manage it somewhat by trying to stay in the present moment rather than fretting about what might happen a year from now. For me, stress relief comes from doing things I enjoy: hanging with my cats, who are ridiculously cute and entertaining; looking at real estate on the internet (I like to see how the super wealthy live, so I look at the $50,000,000.00 houses on Zillow); and I love to go food shopping at ethnic markets. Watching Michigan football is nowhere on the list. 

06/22/2018 - 6:30pm So far, my summer has been a…

So far, my summer has been a lot of driving to towns around the Chicago area for softball tournaments, and I don't see an end in sight. So far, I've been to Mundelein, Wauconda, Niles, Rosemont, Park Ridge, Rockford, and to come is Elgin, Springfield, Joliet, Midlothian, and Romeoville. Wauconda was surprisingly pretty and almost vacation-like. In August, I'm heading to New York City for a family event, and then to Granville, Ohio at the end of the month to drop off my son to his freshman year of college. 

06/22/2018 - 6:24pm Redamak's is a good burger…

Redamak's is a good burger place in New Buffalo, if you care to make the trek. 

06/15/2018 - 5:44pm When I quit smoking back in…

When I quit smoking back in college,  I gained 20 pounds in about a year. I'm 5'4", so that was a lot of weight for me. It took me awhile, but I took it off and kept it off. The key was move more, eat less. I did aerobic activity at least three times a week, for 40 minutes each time. Lifted a few weights. Changed my diet by cutting out fried and fast food and excess fat, like salad dressings, full fat cheese, ice cream, etc....I ate carbs, but not a ton of them. And I didn't snack. The only thing I gave up were rich foods that had no nutritional benefit, like fettuccine alfredo and donuts. I would occasionally have a cheeseburger because I love them, but no fries with the burger. I became very disciplined. In fact, I ended up going to cooking school and becoming a pastry chef after I lost the weight, and I still kept it off. You just have to be really motivated and make sure you exercise regularly. 

06/13/2018 - 11:53pm My son will be a college…

My son will be a college freshman next year and wants to take a language that has a different alphabet. The choices are Chinese, Japanese, and Arabic. My vote is Arabic, but I also think Chinese could be invaluable if he took it seriously and became fluent. 

06/13/2018 - 11:43pm Michigan is the kind of…

Michigan is the kind of place where you have to be self-directed and self-motivated or you'll fall through the cracks. If you're not, I would imagine it must be very stressful, especially seeing other kids who seem to know exactly what they want and are actively pursuing it. I was a Communications major. It was media-driven back then, with classes in journalism (my concentration), mass media, freedom of the press, and also organizational behavior and communication. I went into advertising as a copywriter. One of my housemates went to work for the Brooklyn Academy of Music and then the World Wildlife Fund, in a PR capacity. Barb McQuade was in my class (she was the sports editor of The Daily back then), and she's now an attorney (no politics, but she was appointed by Obama as a U.S. attorney in Michigan) and law professor at Michigan. Lots of options with a communications major. 

06/13/2018 - 9:27pm I know two kids who got into…

I know two kids who got into Michigan out of state. One was wait listed. GPA's were 4.0-ish (on a 5 scale), their ACT's were in the 31-33 range. One was a two sport kid, the other a one sport kid. The one sport kid was a team leader (kind of like a captain). Both had a lot of community service. Really solid, well-rounded kids. 

06/12/2018 - 10:28pm Philip Seymour Hoffman

Philip Seymour Hoffman

Bryan Cranston

Gene Hackman

06/12/2018 - 1:44pm We got the performance…

We got the performance package. It's awesome. I'm still intrigued by the R but I think I'll hold on to the GTI for a few more years. 


06/12/2018 - 1:39pm I've reset my password at…

I've reset my password at least six times already. 

06/11/2018 - 10:41pm I've also read Cat's Eye,…

I've also read Cat's Eye, Life Before Man, and The Robber Bride but those are more realistic fiction, and about relationships. I loved them, but you might not. If you're looking for non-fiction, what about essays? I love David Sedaris. Nora Ephron, too, but she's definitely more of a chick's writer. There's a really good yearly anthology series, The Best American Essays, edited each year by a different prominent writer. There used to be a sports writing anthology, too. 

06/11/2018 - 5:20pm I really enjoy Bill Bryson,…

I really enjoy Bill Bryson, particularly some of his earlier books.

06/11/2018 - 5:09pm Margaret Atwood is a great…

Margaret Atwood is a great writer. Though not as overtly futuristic as Ursula LeGuin, her work is in that dystopian world. I think you’d like her even if she is fiction.

06/08/2018 - 11:34pm What’s somewhat shocking to…

What’s somewhat shocking to me was his love for life and what it has to offer. He reminds me of my father in that way. My father suffered from depression his entire adult life and was hospitalized for it twice, yet he loved to eat and loved food and travel like Bourdain. Assuming Bourdain’s suicide was a product of depression, I think it’s unusual to have that kind of capacity for enjoyment while suffering from a deep depression. Makes me wonder if it wasn’t something else, like a terrible diagnosis.

06/05/2018 - 8:58pm We put our cat to sleep in…

We put our cat to sleep in December, and turned around and got two kittens in January. There was a happiness missing in the house and I immediately wanted to fill that hole. I mourned the cat before he died -- he was diagnosed with kidney cancer, and lasted about 2 months before we knew it was time. Those two months were so sad because we knew it was a matter of months. So it totally depends how you feel. If you find yourself resisting for any reason, wait. 

06/04/2018 - 9:43am I think he's the right guy

I think he's the right guy for the job but maybe didn't completely understand the job when he took it. I think he underestimated Urban Meyer and Dantonio. I think he thought it would be easier and he could just slide in and everything would fall into place. Maybe he got carried away on the same train some of the media did when they said college is better for Harbaugh because of his personality -- he can do all those things that pro players tire of very quickly. He's like Apollo Creed in Rocky with all the spectacle and then he realizes that the opponent doesn't see this as a spectacle. 

06/03/2018 - 9:22am What about Frank?

What about Frank?

06/02/2018 - 6:17pm Karen Carpenter, with her

Karen Carpenter, with her velvety voice, and Scott Weiland, my personal fave male voice. I also like Cat Stevens’ inimitable voice.

05/30/2018 - 11:23am We can't fire Harbaugh

We can't fire Harbaugh because there is no one perceptibly better. Anyone replacing Harbaugh would have to beat Ohio State the first year, a la Tressel did against us. 

05/28/2018 - 11:57am I like that you can reach out

I like that you can reach out on this board and ask questions like this. Not narcissistic at all. 

05/28/2018 - 11:57am I like that you can reach out

I like that you can reach out on this board and ask questions like this. Not narcissistic at all. 

05/28/2018 - 11:57am I like that you can reach out

I like that you can reach out on this board and ask questions like this. Not narcissistic at all. 

05/27/2018 - 11:16am I keep track of where the

I keep track of where the nests are around town and avoid those places. My husband on the other hand will walk the dog right through an infestation just to invalidate my fear.

05/26/2018 - 10:16pm Since we're talking about

Since we're talking about gardening, I have a question for those of you who live in places other than suburban Chicago. Are any of you familiar with the giant and terrifying cicada killer wasp? I have always been afraid of wasps, but when I saw one for the first time when we moved to Evanston, I nearly died. Now the months of July and August are spent scanning the grass every time I go out. I don't relax until the beginning of fall.

05/25/2018 - 8:10pm My son turns 18 and graduates

My son turns 18 and graduates from high school next weekend. I also have a 15 year old daughter. I can't tell you how fulfilling it is raising kids. Not all the time, mind you. I actually said "Fu** You" to my son when he was around 15. I can't even remember why now, but I do know that teenagers love to push the old parental buttons. My advice is to stay as engaged as possible. My husband was great in the infant/toddler years, but when middle school and puberty hit, he retreated. He didn't really know how to talk to a moody teenager, and took everything personally, which left me doing most of the hard stuff. Turns out, his parents never talked to him about anything serious when he was a teenager, and he had no idea how to do it. But one commonality was baseball. My husband is a fanatic (and played a bit in high school) and my son is going to play next year at Denison. My husband never misses a game, and they can talk shop afterward. For a sports guy like my husband, it doesn't get any better. 


As far as babies go, there is no real way to be prepared for the physical toll it takes on your body. We were older when we had our kids (I was 34 with my son and 37 with my daughter, my husband is two years older than me). Dang, we were tired! But we did a good job of trading off. A sense of humor is a must. Everything babies do, especially the gross stuff, is funny. When she was 3, my daughter threw up on a plane as we were landing. We were unprepared and the guy sitting next to her got it in the lap. He was really cool about it, but that will be a story I tell at her high school graduation.