OT: Any other parents worried about young men struggling?
Noticed my son's honor section at school was overwhelmingly girls. Poked around on google and learned gender achievement gap is a modern phenom - gen Y and Z girls take tougher advanced courses, higher GPAs, majority of top 10% of their graduating class, complete undergrad on time (boys taking 5 and 6 years, if they finish), 60/40 girls to boys earning bachelors, masters, professional degrees, and young women are dominating a lot of industries.
Gen y and z boys seem to glorify immaturity and slacking, e.g. Barstool. Video game addiction has gone mainstream, even popular boys are obsessed, e.g. Fortnite. Don't read for leisure. Lots of apathy, disengagement, aren't as focused on academics and career – don't seem to be adapting to the demands to succeed in modern hyper-competitive economy.
What is going on?
February 26th, 2018 at 8:27 PM ^
February 26th, 2018 at 9:51 PM ^
High school teachers actually are pretty close to 50:50 in terms of gender.
February 27th, 2018 at 2:30 PM ^
Girls and women do have to work harder to have their thoughts taken seriously.
And boys and men do have to work harder to have their emotions taken seriously.
February 26th, 2018 at 4:56 PM ^
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February 27th, 2018 at 7:42 AM ^
Christina Hoff Sommers expanded on the article and has a book with the same title on the subject.
https://www.amazon.com/WAR-AGAINST-BOYS-Misguided-Feminism/dp/0684849577
February 26th, 2018 at 4:35 PM ^
February 26th, 2018 at 4:46 PM ^
Peterson is a fraud and a grifter who should not be taken seriously http://www.macleans.ca/opinion/is-jordan-peterson-the-stupid-mans-smart…
February 26th, 2018 at 6:12 PM ^
I'm guessing you share the opinion.. How about a factual take down, not an attempt to remove context from the message filled with childish name calling?
February 26th, 2018 at 8:16 PM ^
February 27th, 2018 at 2:35 PM ^
if the alt-right does indeed like Peterson, then I think he should be celebrated for rescuing them from extremist identity politics and coaxing them back to a reasonable, civil libertarian center.
February 26th, 2018 at 9:24 PM ^
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February 26th, 2018 at 10:18 PM ^
This takedown on the Macleans hit piece is much better reasoned than the hit piece itself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UkDANY6KyDo
February 27th, 2018 at 2:33 PM ^
There are certainly critiques of Peterson that can be made -- beyond slurring him, like you did -- but that article was awful. I can't believe you seriously posted it. It's the kind of lazy, entitled snark that got us into this mess.
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February 26th, 2018 at 6:13 PM ^
The emascualtion of US culture started around 1970 and has continued unabated ever since. Society said that to be manly is to be not merely boorish, but oppressive toward females. Parenting has merely kept up with the cultural norm.
February 26th, 2018 at 4:37 PM ^
First off, I am not a father, so I am making no attempt to criticize or tell people how to raise their child. Its my belief that parents in general are allowing their kids to be hooked on to phones/internet at all times, whether boy or girl. It enrages me to go to dinner and see a 10 year old or 16 year old on their phone or ipad while dining with their family. Or seeing a kid riding in the car with their parent and having headphones in. I think much of the problem lies with how the parents allow their kid just to do whatever so that the parents arent bugged by them and arent instilling certain values, i.e. concentrating on school work instead of playing a video game. There are many other things but...there are some kids on my lawn I have to go yell at now.
February 26th, 2018 at 4:41 PM ^
I'm probably more annoyed when I see adults do it. They're just imitating the example set in front of them. I also think that explains some of the other reasons why the boys are lagging behind the girls.
February 26th, 2018 at 4:45 PM ^
I completely agree. People in general are on their phones WAY too much. I yell at my wife and vice versa if we are at dinner, or even at home and one of us gets on our phone, unless its looking something up we were discussing.
February 27th, 2018 at 2:17 AM ^
My dad and FIL exemplify this. I'm no saint, but wow.
February 26th, 2018 at 4:47 PM ^
February 26th, 2018 at 4:54 PM ^
Have a conversation with your parent or whomever else is in the car.
February 26th, 2018 at 5:04 PM ^
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February 26th, 2018 at 4:56 PM ^
Yep thats why I was saying I'm not criticizing because I'm not there. If a toddler is kicking and screaming and thats the only way to get them to stop, sure I completely get it. But I was speaking of 10 year olds or 15 year olds playing games on their phones.
February 26th, 2018 at 5:28 PM ^
February 26th, 2018 at 9:06 PM ^
How did you have him tested? Our nine year old is unable to focus on his homework at all. We can yell at him, offer him candy -- nothing works. He just can't seem to do it. His writing is also crazy messy. He very smart -- just can't focus.
February 26th, 2018 at 9:51 PM ^
February 27th, 2018 at 1:54 AM ^
Thank you! This is really heartening. And congratulations on finding something that works for your boy. My own son has behaviors like yours did -- he fidgets constantly and has had teachers complain about how he distracts the other kids! I will make an appointment tomorrow and update you on what we find.
February 26th, 2018 at 5:07 PM ^
I mean everyone probably uses their phone more than they need to.
February 26th, 2018 at 5:15 PM ^
Calm down, it's none of your business.
February 26th, 2018 at 9:11 PM ^
February 28th, 2018 at 2:21 AM ^
when they see people minding their own business. Tough guy.
February 26th, 2018 at 7:13 PM ^
February 26th, 2018 at 4:38 PM ^
I thought it went from Gen X to millennials. Regardless of generation, it seems to be a widely held belief that girls mature faster than boys. I know that was the case when I was in high school. In my kids school, I always see more girls walking into school with instruments or large bags. They could be quicker to take advantage of the advanced coursework because they understand the payoff when the complete their schooling.
February 26th, 2018 at 4:43 PM ^