Enjoy the Little Things

Submitted by Dean Pelton on January 6th, 2022 at 10:01 PM

Hey All, I know I said I wouldn’t post for a year after Michigan beat OSU. However I just want everyone to realize every day is precious. We all hear it but don’t really take it to heart. Cherish your family and friends and enjoy the little things. Even if you and your wife end up collapsing on the couch and watching a movie on Friday night because you are too tired to do anything else, you made it through another week and that is something to celebrate. I woke up this morning to find that my wife had passed away during the night. She was in her 40s. She wasn’t a fan of Michigan sports but she followed basically every team on Twitter and would always give me updates. That is just the kind of person she was. On November 27th she was almost more excited than I was because she knew how much the win over OSU meant to me. On December 4th we watched a Christmas movie until she finally blurted out: “Michigan is up 35-3 we have to turn it on!” We watched the last little bit and soaked in the celebration. Just appreciate all the time you have with your family and friends because it can be over before you know it. 

pinkfloyd2000

January 6th, 2022 at 10:08 PM ^

Dean:

Wow. I really don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry. And I wish all the best to you and your family in terms of healing and recovery. I can't imagine going through this.

And yes. This is solid advice for anyone. 

Again, really sorry to hear this. We're here for you, man. 

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Robbie Moore

January 6th, 2022 at 10:13 PM ^

In the real world it doesn't matter if Harbaugh stays or goes. Or whatever todays "big deal" is. Sports are just the toy department of life. Family is everything.

I am so sorry for your loss

 

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BleedThatBlue

January 6th, 2022 at 10:16 PM ^

Wow, Dean. So sorry for your loss. Sports isn’t bigger than life, so cherishing each moment with loved ones is better than sports itself. I hope you and your family can come out of this dark tunnel and keep living the best possible life that you guys can. I’m sure that’s how she would want it. Try to keep your head up brother. I wish you and your family the absolute best and give you my condolences. 

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MGoStretch

January 6th, 2022 at 10:17 PM ^

So very sorry for your loss.

Thank you for taking a moment during this time of grief for that reminder to us all, that’s truly a selfless and generous act on your part.

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MaizeAndBlueWahoo

January 6th, 2022 at 10:21 PM ^

Wow, I can't imagine.  I got a little awful twist in the stomach just reading that.  Incredibly sorry to read that.  I hope you find whatever source of strength it takes to get you through these days.

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schizontastic

January 6th, 2022 at 10:22 PM ^

Thanks for reaching out to us. Please reach out to people in the real world around you. Lots of them might be quiet b/c they don't know what to say or do, but they do want to be there for you. 

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Kevin13

January 6th, 2022 at 10:23 PM ^

So sorry for your loss. But thanks for a perspective that sometimes we all need. Life is precious and there are a lot more important things in life then sports 

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jackw8542

January 6th, 2022 at 10:25 PM ^

Very sorry for your loss. It will undoubtedly be tough for a long time, but I hope you have happy memories to last a lifetime and remember that your life is primarily today and every tomorrow going forward.

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TK

January 6th, 2022 at 10:31 PM ^

I’m sitting here upset about the possibility of Harbaugh leaving and then I have tears in my eyes thinking of my own wife and I realize how insignificant things like who coaches a team really are. Prayers for your peace and healing, Dean. 

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ToledoWolverine

January 6th, 2022 at 11:18 PM ^

I’m sorry you and your family are hurting. Sports are an escape for most of us, sometimes you get reminded how insignificant they really are, despite the importance we assign them. I hope this place and Michigan sports brings you an escape from your pain, however fleeting. 

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rob f

January 6th, 2022 at 11:28 PM ^

My heart aches for you and your loved ones, Dean---what a devastating loss you most certainly are dealing with at this time. 

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.  Thank you for your heartfelt advice to all of us.

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Jumbo Elliot

January 6th, 2022 at 11:30 PM ^

        Man...., I'm pretty sure your wife and my sister were best friends, because she just called me today to tell me about this exact thing happening this morning and the age is right. 

     I am so sorry for your loss. If it was her, your wife was awesome when I knew her as a kid and we shared a common bond of die hard Tigers fandom, even when they weren't any good. Loved seeing all the posts of you and her adventuring and doing fun stuff together too the last few years. I just cannot fathom what you are going through. 

   Either way, I'm so sorry. Know that we are praying for her and you and the family. 

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Davy Found

January 6th, 2022 at 11:47 PM ^

Sending love to you and your family man. Please let us know if there is any way we can help support you in the days, weeks, months, and years to come. MGoFam.

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East German Judge

January 7th, 2022 at 12:10 AM ^

Oh my gosh Dean, just so sorry to hear about your loss especially at such a young age ?.  Thank you also on such an inexplicably sad day for reminding us of what is truly important in this life.  Please forget about the bet you made and please post here if you feel up to it as I think we all would like that. 

Thoughts and prayers to you and the rest of your family ??.

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ChuckieWoodson

January 7th, 2022 at 12:57 AM ^

Sage advice my friend. We as humans more often than not take things for granted.  Your story is a sad reminder for us all to count our blessings and to indeed enjoy every moment.

So sorry for your loss.  There are no words any of us can give you to make this any better right now, but I will give my wife and my kids a few extra hugs tomorrow.  

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jdib

January 7th, 2022 at 4:08 AM ^

Wow, I can't imagine the immeasurable loss you feel and I am sorry that you have to experience it. 

You're absolutely spot on about cherishing little things.  I've had crazy health problems the past decade and I totally took for granted just being healthy in general.  Life, unfortunately, gives some of us a very quick and intense slap in the face and all things can be taken away in an instant.

From one fellow mgoblog stranger to another, I wish you nothing but strength in dealing with it.

 

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