PSA: Helping to cope with a loss
Many of us know someone that has recently suffered great loss...who just hasn't seemed to have that real, meaningful "win" in their lives for some time... a great number of days, as it were.
For those people, we must reach out and let them know we are there for them... constantly reminding them that we are here and will never forget about them. Letting know what's truly important in times like this... and we will be with them as they struggle to manage with their grief & disappointment. Because that's what friends do.
However, in that endeavor we often find ourselves at a loss for words... not knowing just the right thing to say. For those moments, one can look within to find inspiration and the proper words of comfort.
For example:
This looks to be a man that has suffered tremendous loss... perhaps feeling like the world itself is watching and laughing. You could try to help them rationalize the situation. Maybe his plans were fine and someone just didn't execute? Maybe his subordinates were preoccupied polishing up their resumes? Maybe the cold & sinus medication wasn't strong enough? Or perhaps you just didn't have everyone dressed for the right weather? In any case, let them know to cheer up, for today is a new day! The sun will rise again... and pay no attention to that guy measuring your parking space, he's just a friend.
In the end, always remember to be thankful for the time we have together... every, single moment.
August 26th, 2022 at 7:01 AM ^
a true tragedy....bwahahaha
August 26th, 2022 at 7:09 AM ^
Definitely not OT. 🤣
August 26th, 2022 at 7:25 AM ^
For some reason I can feel his pain. Scant moments before he had been telling himself that Michigan had gotten lucky; that now the Iowa D would rise up and get them in the game.
August 26th, 2022 at 9:07 AM ^
Hell, before that play *I* thought the Iowa D would rise up and get them in the game. I'm quite happy to have been wrong.
August 26th, 2022 at 9:39 AM ^
Didn't matter at that point. That Iowa D could have risen up to be stifling the rest of the way, but that Iowa O was never going to be able to score enough points on the ol' Michigan D for any of it to make a difference. Game over.
August 26th, 2022 at 7:43 AM ^
I still remember the moment they put his face on the screen, and you could see the wheels turning - "I am almost certain that, in making this trip to Indianapolis, that I have made a terrible mistake, and my task now must me to rectify it somehow."
August 26th, 2022 at 9:16 AM ^
I was in Indy. And, though I can be empathetic and support people going through challenges - I don’t feel that bad.
A number of Iowa fans “made sure” I was aware of Michigan’s loss at Iowa City - the night game several years ago.
The return this fall should be fun. Go Blue!
August 26th, 2022 at 12:42 PM ^
I want that game just a little bit more than I should. Destroy the pink. 
August 26th, 2022 at 8:38 AM ^
I felt that guy’s pain. It’s a pain every Michigan fan has ever felt.
Going into a game, like the OSU game, where you know on paper you are grossly overmatched but you allow yourself to have hope coming into the game anyway. Heck, if a few things break right and you get yourself to the fourth quarter within a score, it’s anyone’s game. You allow yourself to believe based solely on the justification of “any given Saturday” and not much else to go by.
Game starts out fine. Maybe you force a three and out from your opponent on their first drive, you put together a nice drive yourself. It stalls out deep in their territory, but it’s a confidence builder. A reminder that maybe, just maybe, we can hang with these guys. We can do this.
Before you know it, you blink and it’s 14-0. And all it took your opponent was two plays to do it.
Then, reality sets in. The “we never had a chance, why did I allow myself to believe we did” mentality. Then you start asking yourself “Why did I even buy these tickets? What the hell am I even doing here?”
A feeling we all know all too well. If I was there, sad Iowa fan, I would’ve given you a hug. Because we’ve felt that feeling countless times ourselves.
August 26th, 2022 at 12:53 PM ^
I was in the Upper Deck End Zone seats, a mixed crowd of Michigan fans and Iowa fans. Generally speaking there was very little trash talking (Iowa fans are so nice its alarming), but in the 4th quarter when JJ was still throwing they are grumbling... nothing serious but wondering why we were still throwing the ball up big late in the 4th quarter.....
Too bad.....
August 26th, 2022 at 10:00 AM ^
i have a photo of this from when i was watching the game. it's now my reply text to anything sad
August 26th, 2022 at 11:09 AM ^
Looking at that picture I just feel bad for that guy. I don't dislike Iowa enough to laugh at him.
Of course, I still enjoyed the game greatly.
August 26th, 2022 at 11:42 AM ^
To also be fair to this fan.... this is exactly how i looked and felt 10 min into the Semi Final game against Georgia.
August 26th, 2022 at 7:29 AM ^
Better send Day Ethan Kross's book Chatter so he can make sure he doesn't stay up at night ruminating....
August 26th, 2022 at 7:34 AM ^
Maybe he should seek support from his clergy. Perhaps repent a bit. Maybe 1000 times?
August 26th, 2022 at 7:37 AM ^
There’s something about a nice round number. Go Blue
August 26th, 2022 at 7:52 AM ^
Wow!!! You totally fooled me with this title-and where you went with it. (My thoughts went straight to a very good friend whose wife is struggling greatly-four years into cancer.) VERY well done!!!
August 26th, 2022 at 7:52 AM ^
4 digits - let’s keep it rolling!
August 26th, 2022 at 9:12 AM ^
Wouldn’t it be nice if it turned into five digits, over the next 25 or so years…
August 26th, 2022 at 8:12 AM ^
Also, today marks the 205th birthday of the Greatest University IN THE WORLD.
the University OF Michigan!
1000 Glorious Days!
Go Blue!
August 26th, 2022 at 8:24 AM ^
Well he still has his support from his fanbase for now, but this guy does not look to happy right now.....
August 26th, 2022 at 8:59 AM ^
Am I the only one who hates the "X number of days since team A last beat team B" stat? In football, where you typically only a play a team once a year, it counts 364 days since your last victory as a negative. I think most of us as fans count "time as a winner over them (i.e., the whole duration from the time that you beat a team until they next beat you)" v. "time as a loser to them," and (regrettably) that clock didn't flip until November 2021. As a Michigan fan, though, was anybody really celebrating in October of 2021 because "hey, tOSU hadn't beaten us in over 700 days?"
Neg away if necessary.
August 26th, 2022 at 12:45 PM ^
Lighten up, Francis.
August 26th, 2022 at 9:24 AM ^
As for the pic of Day - a potential caption might be…
”Hey guys, I told everyone we’re going to hang a hundred on them. I need you to stop trying to figure out your next NIL deal - and actually read the playbook. And, in the future, you can’t attend practices like you go to class - Zoom meeting participation won’t count. Oh, JC, I think your Mercedes needs an oil change - let me know when I can take it to the dealer for you. Hey - all you boosters - I still need $13 million to keep this team that has trouble with snow flurries - together. Pony up to the bar and bring your checkbook.”
P.S. Excuse me, Urban, would you and that chick please move over so these boosters can write a few checks. We don’t need to use cash or bag men, like you taught me.
August 26th, 2022 at 9:31 AM ^
One win since 2011. We sound obnoxious and more like sparty fans