OT: Decision to have one more kid
Wife and I are approaching the age where statistics start playing a role in having a kid. We currently have two boys (6 and 4).
Have others on the board had this debate thinking they were done after x children? Then later think if we don’t now we won’t be able to later.
Prediction: Michigan wins the Big Ten without beating OSU. This allows UM to recruit at a slightly higher level closing the gap more.
Go Blue!
Or you could avoid birth control and let nature decide.
Weird prediction. You're the first person on this board to argue the benefits of not beating OSU. With that kind of thinking I question whether further expansion of your gene pool is advisable.
We have a 5yo and a 3yo and are consistently baffled as to how anyone ever has a third child. Put simply, I read the vasectomy thread with purpose.
Wife and I had our 7th last July, I was 45 and my wife was 42. Other than me hitting v-tach and getting chest compressions and defibbed in the delivery room 2 hours later, all was good.
Do your best to populate the United States. Have 1 more kid.
August 3rd, 2019 at 11:12 PM ^
I look at it like basketball. 1 kid means double team trap defense, 2 kids means man to man, 3 kids means zone with a perpetual open shooter...never good.
For the record, my girls are 6 and 4. No fucking way I would go through that again. OP's boys are old enough that you start to get that selective memory of the good times of having babies/toddlers and forget all the train wrecks and pain in the ass moments.
Depends on how much you like kid activities. I have 2 kids, and that was the right number for how much I like doing kid things. When my youngest finished each phase (kindergarten, grade school, middle school, etc...), I had no interest in going through them again.
August 5th, 2019 at 10:27 AM ^
As most folks have commented here... it's a really hard decision. I have a 6yr old girl and a 3yr old son. They now fight and argue all the time. We're up to our eyeballs in debt so having a 3rd one seems.... like not a great idea. That said, we both love the idea of the 3rd - and you of course consider all of the questions... would it be a boy or girl? What would he/she look like? What would we name him/her, etc. I wish I was like some of the folks on here that knew exactly what to do - that said due to many of the reasons listed above and here - money, time, etc. we'll probably stick with 2 especially since we got one of each gender which was super lucky.
Best of luck with your decision - it's never an easy one. But whatever you decide will be the right choice.