Mental health check-in
Hey everyone -
Thought it was a good time to check in on everyone's mental health. This quarantine is a beast and has exacted a toll in my house. My husband and I are surviving, and my son weirdly seems to be almost thriving, but my daughter is now suffering from a complete lack of motivation and depression. Normally an A student and a student athlete, it's as if she's completely thrown in the towel. Her school isn't helping, as most of her classes aren't offering a real online learning experience, so most of her work is completely solo. She's an extrovert and needs the classroom interaction to stay engaged. And since they are all pass/fail, her grades won't be affected either way. You'd think this would be good but she thrives in an environment with feedback where she can push herself to do better. In any event, she's now seeing a psychologist online, and meds may be next. We're all suffering to varying degrees but for many, it is becoming unbearable, especially for kids and teens. There are a lot of resources out there now so if you're suffering or feeling hopeless, please reach out for help.
My daughter has been screaming at me all day, my wife is being a bitch, and it’s taking everything I have not to do something bad. I’d say I’m doing pretty fucking poorly.
Best part is you've still got 3 weeks more to go.
Be careful JPC. This post could be admissible in court.
This shit's gotta stop. Open it up. I'm not scared. Millions will die if not opened soon. Sorry for the strong words but I have studied a lot of history. There are some not nice people calling the shots.
There are some not nice people fucking up a nice thread.
I don’t know why you’re being downvoted, you’re 100% correct. At this point the cure is worse than the virus, there’s too much data out that now shows it far more widespread and the mortality rate is loooooow around 0.01-0.05%. I feel bad for anybody who actually lives in Michigan. Your Governor is a class A cunt.
Your President suggests we inject bleach.
This just got awkward seeing how I didn’t vote for Trump.
That's okay, the current opposition candidate who likes to inappropriately put his hands on young girls told a man in a wheelchair to stand up.
Do you believe this? Are you concerned you or a family member should or might inject bleach?
Yeah, color me unsurprised that an Urban Meyer burner account describes a woman in power who (checks notes) is trying to stop people from dying in such terms. Also, seriously, "cunt" is the word you thought best drove your point home?
Yeah, seems like a real class act
Banning the sale of seeds and gardening tools is saving lives? Boy you really are fucking dumb aren’t you? Don’t worry, everybody outside of Michigan thinks your governor is a stupid ass power tripping cunt.
No, we just don't like ass-holes like yourselves.
I have "studied a lot of history" too. Have a degree in it actually. That doesnt excuse your strong words.
Sorry if my strong words hurt your feelings. I forgot 98% of users on this blog are sensitive as hell.
I’m out west and have had to field questions from co-workers about how “how horrible was it to grow up in a backwards state like that” and “how much that governor is hated” multiple times in the past few weeks.
I’m not a political person, but it seems like Whitmer and Michigan have become a bit of a laughingstock for they rest of the nation (based on what I’ve experienced). I’ve never really heard this much vitriolic hate of Michigan before COVID and Whitmer.
Can someone give me a quick rundown of what she did and why my coworkers all suddenly seem to agree that Michigan is a “dead state”, “horrible”, and “must suck to have grown up in”?
Thanks.
I am out west as well and people think Michigan is one of the states doing things right.
Perhaps your environment has a lot of Fox News viewers. Would not pay too much attention to those people.
Not at all. I don’t work in a place like San Fran, LA, or Portland, but it’s a fairly liberal place; the majority of my coworkers aren’t Trump supporters.
That said, they’ve been laughing at Whitmore specifically, saying she’s “useless”, “transparently posturing”, and “making things worse on people in an already depressing state”.
I work in a job where we have a little more insight and information than the general public does. I didn’t feel I knew enough about her policy decisions to have a valid opinion when it came up. Again, can someone please give a rundown of what she’s done?
I happen to work in a field where everyone is saying really nasty stuff about your mom. “Ho-bag,” “yeasty” and things like that. I don’t understand it. Could someone give me a run down on why people are saying those things?
Nice to see the superior, high-IQ liberals of Michigan still treat their favorite political party like it’s their favorite sports team...
...because, you know, that’s what intelligent people do.
Just so you guys know, you can be just as insufferable as the other side. I just came here to ask a question, and look at how you treated me.
April 25th, 2020 at 10:02 PM ^
whitmer was doing fine following the ohio gov's recommendations up until about 3 weeks ago when she jumped the shark on adding some stupid rules. she took a lot of crud for that the next week and walked back a bit of it this week. she is not strong intellectually, and that's a problem.
April 25th, 2020 at 10:48 PM ^
I think she's done fine for the most part, but she's a Spartan so...
April 25th, 2020 at 11:29 PM ^
hence my last sentence.
what will it take for you to post a picture of your colored strawberry blond hair? willing to bribe you.
Whitmer was fine when it didn’t matter. She’s been exposed as an amateur in way over her head. That’s pretty obvious to an objective perspective.
Whitmer was fine when it didn’t matter. She’s been exposed as an amateur in way over her head. That’s pretty obvious to an objective perspective.
Your question was disingenuous, as was mine. I apologize for the misogyny.
Curious what’s the cases of death would be by count
I have taken it in waves. I am now at the "making my own sourdough starter" phase. Could be worse, but have definitely put on the Covid 19
Keep the water warm
Keep the bowl covered
Keep the starter in a very warm place
Let science do science
Just upset that there will almost certainly not be college sports this fall at this point.
Psychologist and meds? Dude. It’s only going to be another few weeks to a month — the school year would almost be done in “real life” anyway. Just ride the next month or whatever out and she’s done.
I know it's hard to understand if you're not in that boat but look at it this way. If someone took away the thing or things that gave you your identity, whether it be work or sports or whatever and there was nothing to replace it, how would you feel? Teens don't have any perspective. It's hard to believe this will end soon, and in her case, even if it ends, all the things she had planned have been cancelled. No sports, which was her lifeblood. All her preparation for the college tests put on the back burner for who knows how long. Summer plans, which she was really looking forward to and gave her a sense of purpose, cancelled. No contact with friends. No social interaction and for a teenager, that's everything. It's not about boredom. It's about a sudden loss of control of your life for the first time in your life. And a lot of uncertainty. We're in Illinois, so it's not just a couple of weeks; it's now the end of May. And the news is talking about how things won't go back to normal until there's a vaccine, so 12 - 18 months. At 17, that's a lot to take in. Plus, the weather is shitty here, so the daily gloom certainly isn't helping.
Very true. I imagine I would have been much worse had this happened 15 years ago when all of those activities and such were my entire life.
Believe me -- I would love to be able to say, "Snap out of it!" I've tried, but once that sense of hopelessness sets in, it's really hard to get out of it without either a) a return to normal, or b) professional help. A's not happening soon enough.
I'm honestly doing great in the lockdown. I haven't been this content in ages. I could easily live like this for years.
My wife is bipolar and prone to depression, but she's done fairly well too. I did take her in for a ketamine infusion last week though, but it was at her regular interval of about 6 weeks.
Kids are ok, but both doing Zoom meetings with their therapists. Their issues predate the pandemic though. My college girl isn't handling it as well as my 2nd grade son. She's pissed about having everything go online, but at least she's still in Ann Arbor with her roommates, so I'm assuming they're rarely sober.
My 8 year old thinks not having to go to school is the best thing ever. I see a directional school in his future.
Your daughter will be fine. Kids are tougher than we think they are and this will pass eventually.
I finished reading The Grapes of Wrath this morning. I liked OM&M and gave this a go. It’s not making me feel any better. And no, I’m not making this up to be funny.
Weirdest ending to a book I’ve ever read.
Hated the turtle chapters.
Zoom or FaceTime with her friends. I had a zoom tutoring session with my niece last night. We did reducing radicals with exponents. While it wasn’t super fun, it was good to talk to someone.
I am doing pretty well, thank you. Enjoyed a virtual happy hour last night and adjusting to the changes.
For those of you with school aged children, if their school is open then mental health support should continue to be available through their school if it was in place before the lockdowns.
I’ve been very up-and-down. I read the news every day and read the posts here on MGoBlog and get a variety of perspectives, which I really enjoy. I even get a kick out of reading the goofy conspiracy theorists. Some days I feel pretty optimistic that this will be over sooner rather than later, and other days it feels like the world is ending, life will never be the same again and I wish I were dead so I wouldn’t have to deal with this miserable new world anymore in which I can’t earn a living, can’t do the things I love or see the people I love.
I know all pandemics end at some point. Even with states reopening with restrictions (my state will be doing this soon) and the overall US numbers seemingly trending in the right direction it just all feels so hopeless. It just feels like there’s no good way out of this fucking bullshit and no real end in sight. Maybe I need to stay off the internet. Anyway, sorry for the rant. I hope you guys are alright.
After the layoffs/furloughs, sicknesses & death of family members of those close to me, I'm as steady as could be. Not expecting any major restrictions to be lifted in NY until June 30 so in essence, I've settled in and starting to get into some serious culinary arts and continuing to Zoom to the point that we're "seeing" friends more often now than before.
My family and I are doing fantastic. My oldest daughter (24 yo) isn't working so she moved back home for the companionship. Our only problem is my widower neighbor, who was a good friend, has a new Millbilly (from Millburg - Hicksville USA) girlfriend who moved in with her young German Shepherd. They leave it out all day and sometimes at night. It barks if a leaf falls off a tree. The twp had been contacted by other neighbors and has sent letters. I think a fine is next. But it doesn't matter. She yells at me and my kids for going into our backyard and making her dog bark.
Welcome to quarantine. ???
A little bored and cooped up. Get out of the house and talk to your friends and neighbors, exercise, do some yard work, take a walk.
Less motivated at work (remotely) and with exercising but trying to get outside and do 2-3 miles. The weather is getting nicer at least. I'm mostly introverted so not seeing people hasn't been too terrible.
Disappointed in our leaders who seem more concerned with their image than making a tough decision. They know they will never be impacted personally and are acting accordingly.
I feel for you and your family. My kids are younger so it's been a bit easier in terms of adjustment, but I've noticed my daughter has struggled with the break more than our son. One thing that does help us is getting outside and moving around. Just getting some sun and fresh air and not sitting and watching a screen helps immensely.
We're in Chicago and the weather's been shitty here. 40's and rain or cloudy. Not conducive to that get outside thing. And screens are a double edged sword because they're her only lifeline to her friends. So as much as I'd love to take it away, that seems cruel right now.