I have always wanted to go to a movie by myself, but, never had the opportunity (or the courage to do it). This seems like the perfect excuse to sit by yourself with a large popcorn in a cool theatre.
I have always wanted to go to a movie by myself, but, never had the opportunity (or the courage to do it). This seems like the perfect excuse to sit by yourself with a large popcorn in a cool theatre.
I have a busy job and a 1.5 year old at home; when I have unexpected free time, I tend to grab a spot outside (coffee shop or beer garden - I do, in fact, drink alone) with any one of the number of books piling up on my "To read" list.
Cities you say? Hopefully this list is helpful (with Amazon links)
The Death and Life of Great American Cities by Jane Jacobs is a 101.
Cities of Tomorrow by UM's own Peter Hall is also great.
Wrestling with Moses is a great follow-up to Death and Life.
Devil in the White City is sort of a historical-fictionish retelling that combines urban sociology, history and a crime story.
Triumph of the City by Edward Glaeser is about the contemporary rise and importance of cities.
Planet of Slums by Mike Davis is a great urban history / dark reality of world cities.
The Option of Urbanism by Chris Leinberger, also a UM guy, tells of how America has traditionally incentivized auto-oriented suburbanism.
I read an excellent true crime book about the meth epidemic in the rural US called "Methland".
Isaac's Storm and In the Garden of the Beasts for more Erik Larson history/cities types of books.
If you love architecture, Devil in the White City by Erik Larson is a must read. The book is a thriller about a murderer at the World Fair in Chicago. However they go quite into depth about the architecture firms behind making the world fair possible. let me know what ya think if you decide to read it.
I have an architectural background and it was an awesome read for that reason alone. Plus it's about grisly creepy murders to boot, so how can you go wrong?
Of course, there's always porn.
"Nuansced movies" do not exist in the summer. You will have to wait until Oscar nomination season about, oh, Thanksgiving or so. Until then, you're stuck with Grandson of Rocky XXIV - Die Hard in the Zombie Wars.
The Kings of Summer looks interesting.
To find a movie where there is no one else in the theater. No matter how bad the movie or obscure the time, someone else always walks in once it's rolling.
Couple years ago I pulled this off in Sault Ste. Marie on a summer Saturday at noon.
It is achievable.
I do this farily often. It's relaxing for me. You can just space out if you don't like the movie, because no one will want to talk to you about it afterward.
Are you the master of your domain?
I'm out. *Slams money down on the counter*
I'm out of the contest.
Easy. Change one sentence in your post:
"I don't drink alone" to "I used to not drink alone"
Your troubles are over.
End the thread, problem is solved.
Jesus do NOT start doing that again! However, I think "drinking by yourself" can easily mean grabbing a couple beers; as most of the members around here would suggest, brewski does not mean a bud light/busch light. Find yourself some quality craft beers, stuff you've never had, and venture down the "drinking by yourself" road via this method. A few beers are not the same as pulling off a bottle of whiskey for hours.
Also the whole movie by yourself thing is easy as hell. A few years back I went through a phase of doing this and there's nothing to it; at times it's even better, especially after a movie's been out a week or two and you get or nearly get the place to yourself. Hell I drove into Chicago last week by myself for the day for a concert in the evening. Attended said concert solo and spent the day "solo". I'm not sure when society started maintaining social event's status quo need be met by multiple people together (yes, the fact they're social implies that in a way, but, I maintain my stance).
Also, any baseball around you? Definitely outside but catching a A/AA/AAA ball game alone could be another easy/fun thing to do.
It's like an animal who stayed at the zoo for too long. When PETA comes and opens all the cages, the animals just sit there and blink.
As for suggestions, shave every square inch of your body hair, get drunk, then pass out in your girlfriends underwear. When she gets home from work, she'll think it is HILARIOUS. Trust me. It's what us normal people who use our vacation do for fun.
No matter how hot it is, a round of golf with ice cold beer passes the time and clears the mind.
to Nevada last August and played golf on a 114 degree day. There was beer. It passed nothing and cleared nothing. It was a miserable 5 hours.
He's from Arizona, not sure where you're from, but I used to live there myself. There is such a time where it is too hot for playing a round, and that time would be while the sun is up during summettime in Arizona.
I actually stopped playing when I moved to Arizona (as backwards as that sounds because the amount of incredible courses and perfect weather in the winter). I went to Grayhawk once during one summer because a good friend (and a diehard Sparty fan) was a pro there. It was absolutely beautiful and worth doing it at least once, but never again.
So you live in AZ then, or was that directed at someone else? If thats the case, I would love to play TPC Scottsdale and Troon North. Ever played either of those?
Aside from watching any movies and tv shows that you have to catch up on, how about all of the little things that you have to do that you don't have time for because of work?
That closet you've been meaning to clean, the leaky faucet you've been meaning to fix, the email you have to write that you've been putting of, the minor but annoying issue that requiers you to be on hold for at least a half hour before finally talking to tech support, etc.
Whatever little things pile up for you, they begin to weigh on the back of your mind, causing your overall focus and energy to become clouded. Knocking them out will make you feel like a thousand bucks.
Maybe you're the kind of guy who takes care of these little things immediately as soon as they pop up... in that case, maybe there's a new skill, hobby, or project you've been looking to start but haven't had time.
If none of these and you're not leaving your home, well yeah, all I've got is movies and TV.
Are you THE Nick (Nicholas) Sparks??? Don't you have a sappy romance novel or crappy chick flick to recommend to him?
Lol, different Nick Sparks.
Edit: A quick wiki search of the romance novelist shows that he went to Notre Dame. You can probably give up all hope of crappy romance novel/chick flick recommendations on this board ;-)
Seriously? You can't think of anything to do? Go to a movie. Rent a movie. Go to the library and get a book. Buy a playstation or Xbox. Go for a swim. Go for a hike. Build something for your house. And honestly, get over the drinking alone. There is a world of world class beers out there for you to sample and enjoy. Go to the store, get a 750 of Le Fin Du Monde (one of my personal favs), sit on the porch, enjoy, relax and think about whatever you want to. There's a world out there to enjoy that's not work.
Do any of those things mentioned by FMH and the day will fly by...If all you ever do is work or think about work, it will lead to burnout, someday work will end, you will need to have some hobbies or interests outside of that world.
That's what refrigerators where invented for. And besides, a good tripel shouldn't be drank ice cold. A nice cool/cellar temp to start is the best if you want to be all proper. And honestly, if you're not willing to go outside, and stuff inside sounds awful, then I don't know what to tell you. It sounds like you're being intentionally difficult. You could always get on of the wooden cups with a ball attached to a string and try and get the ball attached to the string into the wooden cup buy throwing it up and catching it in the wooden cup. Provides hours of fun.
Drive 1.5 hrs in any direction and you'll be in the mountains. Crank up some music on the drive and open your windows to feel the cool mountain air once you're close to Payson, Prescott, Flagstaff, or wherever. Try the gravy/cheese fries at Flagstaff Brewing.
I lived in Tempe for 6 years and found the place absolutely unbearable in the summer...had to get into the mountains every chance I got.
If you actually live in Arizona, how often does one go up to the Grand Canyon? This wonder is a short drive away, but when was the last time the OP (or anyone there) went.
A little advance warning and you could have had a drinking partner, Butterfield. Given that it's a lovely 112*, might I recommend the patio misters at 5th and Wine in old town, a Bison Burger, and a good book like Smart Football's latest? Scottsdale Gun Club (indoor range) and rent a firearm?
I'm partial to Rehab Burger on 2nd myself. Had the Hatch Chili Cheeseburger during my visit there. Awesome.
For a real day of bliss, you need only learn three words.
Auto. Erotic. Asphyxiation.
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chimed in with advice on my thread, I'll chime in on your thread. I have been effectively unemployed for a few months, and one of the ways I found to suck up a good amount of time is to practice my language skills (and read books, but it might be hard to get the book you want within two days, etc., etc.) If there was ever a language you wanted to practice, or used to know, and want to bone up on, this site I've been using, Livemocha, has lots of communities around those languages, so you can find native speakers to practice with. My Spanish has really improved, at least in written form. If you want to actually learn a new language (maybe hard in two days), then I have heard good things about this site called Duolinguo for the more common Western ones.
It doesn't happen much now that I have kids, but on these occasions, I will go with a movie marathon or a marathon of some television show. Do you have a gaming system with a goodly variety of sports games? Those help me pass the time as well, especially ones that you have to interact with, such as with the Wii or XBox Kinect.
Another possibility, if you enjoy cooking, is to use some time for experimenting with dishes. When my wife and kids are gone, I sometimes will basically turn the kitchen into a laboratory and renew my search for the perfect marinade or whatever. You could also use the time to do general maintenance around the place - I find that I am much more productive on any to-do list when people are not around to interrupt me.
I've actually had this situation. Since my kids moved out of the house, I have more free time. So here are some suggestions, in no particular order, some concrete, some not:
1) I'll send you some of my work. Enjoy.
2) Try creative writing/art. If your job is research/reading intensive, like mine, you might find letting out creative juices to be wonderful. I actually finished a first draft of a novel. It's been amazing, and given me insight into myself.
3) Look for a dance class, or something you thought you'd never do. Probably won't happen during the day, but doing something out of the ordinary is useful.
4) Meditation. Okay, I admit this is boring. That's the best thing about it. After I found myself alone without kids, it took me a while, but I went out of my way to allow myself to feel lonely and/or bored. These can be useful feelings. Don't run from them by going to the nearest bar (though I enjoy a good libation from time to (frequent) time myself).
5) As mentioned by numerous folks, a tug never hurt anyone.
would have said like Piano or something I think I would be on board, and writing a novel is Boss. But dance.......?
It is amazing for making you aware of your own body, chance to listen to cool music, meet people and once you get over your own self-consciousness, it's fun as hell. As an aside (not relevant to OP), I've also met some amazing women at dance classes, including my girlfriend.
We can dance if we want to
We can leave your friends behind
Cause your friends don't dance
And if they don't dance
Well they're no friends of mine
This might be the best setup for a video ever.
may have hit it on the head with self-consciousness.
I don't dance. I don't even like to be in the room when other people are dancing. I think maybe I feel I am already aware enough of my own body and don't want to subject others to the same horror.
I've thoroughly enjoyed this excange of internet chatter.
Bored? Go Dance. Not listed last, but as the 3rd idea.
Men Without Hats. SSSS-AAAA-FFFF-EEEE-TTTT-YYYY
Horror thinking about people dancing.
... you love them. No one is around forever. I was reminded the hard way on Tuesday (lost my Stepfather who was essentially my father for nearly 30 years as my biological father died when I was 7).
My 3 year old daughter said on Father's day "I want to see Granddad." Something in me told me this was extremely important so I put down our moving efforts, found my phone, and skyped with Granddad for an hour. He was gone two days later.
I thought this somewhat relevant because Granddad was my introduction to sports. He was a huge ND fan but still loved to go to college hockey (we started going in '84, the year Red started coaching at Michigan - Yost wasn't nearly so nice), pro hockey, and many other sports.
RIP Dr. David Dolan
I'm still not sure why I'm reading this whole thread but I completely agree with your idea. We always wish we d have told our family and friends how much they meant to us once they're gone and it takes such little effort to do so while they're still here. I didn't have the day off but I'm going to take your advise and make a few calls. You never know what's coming around the corner.
Alright, first you have to admit that there is a higher power and that you have no control over your working.
After that, you golf. Since you are not going to golf and will not drink alone, you can either pretty much post on here or catch a House marathon on USA.
Hang out w/ Manti's girlfriend.
and Phoenix is a large enough city that there's probably plenty to do in climate controlled places that locals could suggest, and you've got established hobbies already, but why not teach yourself a stupid human trick like how to juggle or do ridiculous yo-yo tricks? You'll be occupied for an hour or two and your family can pretend to be impressed later.
Head down to Casino Arizona or Lone Butte (my personal favorite Phoenix area Casino) and gamble a little while you kill some time. There will be plenty people there and most all of them will be alone, so going there by yourself would only be weird or creepy if you tell your friends that's what you did with your day off.
I'm sure Don Draper would like to get a drink, Roger.
And treat yourself to some HD meat wanking time
Look on the bright side. Some of us can't find jobs. Despite applying to an endless number of them.
Sorry to hear that. I don't want to go off topic here, but have you ever looked into what is involved for a person of your qualifications to come to Canada to work, or do you have no desire to head that far afield? I only ask because when I read your original thread I did a little looking around these parts and there were some jobs available (not that I know what you are really looking for, but I gave it a go anyway).
I would be intersted...only I'd like to have an offer in hand before i committ to moving up there financially
Cooking is a great go-to for me. Decide what type of cuisine you're in the mood for and then spend about an hour looking around for a recipe that sounds amazing to you. There are hundreds of fantastic cooking blogs, some even have step-by-step pictures for you to follow along, and there are many good recipe websites as well.
Then head out to the store, buy all of the ingredients, and it'll probably take you at least an hour to make a truly great recipe. And the payoff is obvious.
I want to be clear to start that I have no problem with this thread at all...I'm more jealous than anything. Honestly, I can't remember the last time I had ten minuntes to myself that weren't previously booked weeks in advance.
I have a 100 year old home in the midst of renovations, four soon to be five year olds and a wife who has no problem piling things up in "to do lists" for those rare times when I'm not at the hospital.
If I had the time you have on your hands for the next two days I would take a stab at fixing my jet boat as I haven't been able to get it on the water yet this year and I'm pretty sure it's a problem with the carbs. Since I'm not a mechanic it will take me some time to research and study the manual before I feel comfortable taking it apart and figuirng out what's wrong...So if you have a jet boat that has a fuel problem you might want to try that. Or you could always come over and fix mine if you find yourself at a loose end!
Good luck on your days off though. Hope you find enjoyment and relaxiation in some degree.
Get a massage or go to the spa. Sounds like you could use some R&R. Some guys have an issue with that stuff but if I was in your shoes that's what I'd do, beyond golf that is.
Make a homemade rub and barbeque sauce, light up that grill, throw some wood chips on the fire and spend the next 8 hours smoking some ribs. if you're that averse to drinking alone, make some iced tea to sip on while you occasionally check the temperature. its an activity thats easy but enough to keep you busy, and wife will enjoy having dinner made when she gets home.
Pick a TV show you've always been curious to watch but never had the time, and go marathon a whole season or more depending on how many episodes the season is. If not available for streaming or on netflix streaming, check your local library. Many local libraries have good selections of tv seasons. Based on your Mad Men avatar and your comments earlier that your prefer cerebral entertainment to summer blockbusters when you were discussing movies, i'm sure you're already current on that show, so here's some suggestions in a similar vein (although you've probably seen many of these):
Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, The Wire, Boardwalk Empire, The Sopranos, Sports Night (a two season show with 30 min episodes, you can probably do the whole run in 2 days easy), Lost, The Shield.
Or pick up a couple movies on DVD from your local library or rental place and check them out. Head on over to IMDB.com and look at their top 250 films and find ones you haven't seen yet and rent some of them. IMDB top 250 can be found here: http://www.imdb.com/chart/top?ref_=nb_mv_3_chttp
I was going to say head out to a DBacks game, but then I remembered I've got tickets for them in DC later this week. So here's another suggestion: lunch at Blue Adobe Cafe. Then head for a movie. After the movie, go to a dayspa and get a massage (and maybe some balm for your sunburn). After the spa, it's time for dinner. Head to Pizzeria Bianco. If there's too much for dinner, take the remainder home for lunch your next day in the office.
Besides the fresh toppings, I find no value in this establishment. The dough is hard. Maybe I am just too hung up on Chicago style pizza... I like lots of toppings - including cheese.
Then again, you mentioned going to the spa... so obviously you and I probably will never agree on anything.
Drink, masturbate, fall asleep. Repeat. Doesn't have to be in that order.
I lived in Tempe for ten years and trust me when I tell you that you should visit the Bob Bondurant school of racing and take the mini carts for a spin. Incredible experience. http://www.bondurant.com/programs/karting
If you were in Iowa you could be strom chasing. That would be a neat hobby to pick up. Sh*t has been a monsoon and now tornado warnings for county south of here. More flash flooding...yay.
Hookers and blow.
Hmm... Watch This Is the End in a cinema in the morning, when movie tickets tend to be cheaper; then stay at home and watch Game of Thrones for the rest of the day.
If you've got some shows you've been meaning to watch, set aside like 9-10 hours and just go nuts.
That's what I did with Boardwalk Empire and Game of Thrones.
I'm surprised that no one mentioned this yet. The scenery along Mill Ave in Tempe is world class. Now I realize that it's summer semester and it's 114 degrees. But.. a nice stroll around lunch time, with a burger and a beer under the misters at Gordon Biersch... Not a bad way to kill a few hours.
Too bad you didn't ask BEFORE your time off. I highly recommend a couple days in Denver/Fort Collins/Boulder. So many breweries. Plenty of outdoor activities. A flight from Phoenix is not bad, and it sure is nice to get out of this heat.
You could always take a trip up north to the mountains to get out of the heat. Hang out in Sedona or Flagstaff if you need city streets and activities. Have you visited Canyon Lake, Saguaro Lake, or Lake Pleasant. I've rented boats out on Lake Pleasant plenty of times.
Since you are sunburnt, I'll skip the hiking spiel. So you are then left with indoor activities. Bowling, movies, try a new restaurant. Some of the museums around here can be entertaining.
As for me, I like beer. I highly recommend taking a cab to a location that has numerous beers on tap. I like the Hungry Monk in Chandler, the guy who runs it is from Livonia I believe. I also like Four Peaks brewery... they always have an interesting food special. Wednesdays they have cask conditioned ale, my favorite. I swear I'm going to get out to Ashley's in Ann Arbor next year.
I wish I had some extra time off. I feel like all I do is work. One of these days I am finally going to get out to Lake Havasu, down to Rocky Point, and out to Monument Valley.
Read, "Gone Forever" by Dianne Fanning. It's a gripping, detailed true crime story about a husband that killed his wife in Texas. My brother is mentioned several times in the book (they used his real name) because he attended a party at the victim's house hosted by her a few days before she disappeared.
It was the last time people saw the wife and the husband's odd behavior was noticed by the guests.
Serious? Now I am actually going to read this
Go to a local singles website and create a profile with the username Good Time Charlie. You owe me no thanks.
Buy an old house. You'll quickly forget what having a spare free moment feels like.
Skydive Arizona in Eloy is one of the biggest and most well-known places in the country. Jumping from at plane is a great experience and a perfect way to fill a day off!
You have a wonderful opportunity to take a two day trip to L.A. The airport is nice and ez to get around and has shuttle buses just outside to take you to the other bus lines that run throughout the greater L.A. area. That city offers so much and has such an interesting history that buring two days would be about just perfect. Santa Monica offers Venice Beach right across the street from downtown and the weather is so un Arizona like you will love it. ^I cannot get paragraph breaks for some reason so the ^represents such. Hell, you could fill up two days easily just doing tours- I can hook you up on that- cheaply and see some of the most beautiful topography in the world. You can take in the ocean, mountains, Rose Bowl and it's all only a matter of getting on the correct bust line. There is a great little bar in W. L.A., an area known for it's high prices, called the Lost and Found, with Midwest prices and great down-to-earth people. ^You could probably do a round trip air fare for around 2 1/2 and about 80.00 a night - not peak season- for a nice motel room. ^Glad I never enjoyed your problem throughout my working years, but buddy take it easy and start using some of those days. I don't know how your time and attendance is set up, but start out by just taking a few hours off here and there, maybe get out on the course during the winter time, etc., and you might be able to eat up time in that manner in the future. Good Luck.
Fuck bitches get money
Drive up to Sedona and go to the best (and best named) swimming hole, it's called the crack and its in wet beaver creek. Ive swam in swimming holes all over the U.S. and this is my favorite one. It's about a 3 mile hike back, but it is totally worth it. The entire hike you won't believe that you'll find water and then out of nowhere you hit a beautiful blue swimming hole surrounded by red rocks. There are really tall rocks to jump off of as well. There are other swimming holes around there, but this one is better and there aren't as many people around.
That's probably my favorite backpacking spot ever. Way less crowded than Sedona and just as beautiful. An ex and I camped on a big flat rock right on the water, went skinny dipping at midnight, etc.
I too live in the Phoenix area. Ask your mom if you can come over to my house and play. We can rollerblade, eat sandwiches, and see where it goes from there. Who knows