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This is a comparison that a lot of coaches like to make -- sometimes earnestly, sometimes defensively. They compare their team to a family. But there are fundamental differences between a college football team and a family. I mean, if my son did what Glenn Winston or Roderick Jenrette did, I would be heartbroken, but I would not kick him out of my family. (Of course, the little dude has to learn to walk before he can commit a crime.)
My family is mine. Dantonio's team belongs to Michigan State University. And he has two problems here that he needs to address.
One is that second-chance policy. He doesn't have to get rid of it, but he absolutely should tighten it. When players commit violent or otherwise serious crimes, Dantonio should err on the side of dismissing the players. He still can be their father figure, their friend, their mentor or whatever else he wants to be. But sometimes a first offense is serious enough to warrant dismissal.
This would help address the second problem: the culture of the team. Dantonio said that 20 of his 21 seniors were on pace to graduate this spring (with the 21st planning to come back for a fifth year), and that is great. But the fact is that 13 of his players thought it was OK to go to a dorm potluck to confront somebody in an ongoing feud with a fraternity.