This board, when it's at its best, has people clearing the proverbial air (rather than reflexively neg-bombing a comment). Thanks for following up.
A lifetime ago I worked with victims of various crimes, and I learned it is more difficult for a victim to come forward than I realized before that experience. It puts the victim of a crime in a hard spot - what they want more than anything is to make the experience "go away" or forget. Pressing a complaint means subjecting yourself to cross-examination and sometimes implicit criticism in the press. Witness those cases where a high school football player is accused of a sex crime, and the local paper (I've seen the Free Press do this) makes the faux-deep observation that the football player is a victim too. The accused's friends often get wind of the situation, and can make life hell at school, etc., for the victim. (I get that not every accused abuser is guilty, BTW. But I think - perhaps outside of divorce/custody cases - false accusations of sexual abuse are much rarer than people generally believe.)
Plus, the "genital manipulation" cases (as Dana reports on her blog) are really hard to make stick. There's often no physical evidence of abuse, and it's too easy for a defendant to raise reasonable doubt in those cases (which often boil down to he said / she said affairs).
Anyway, thanks again for the measured response.