OT: Christmas shopping for your Spouse/Significant other...Let's hear your ideas.
he said ideas for your wife
I'll keep that one in mind in case all else fails...and I do mean ALL else.
Got us Winter Classic tickets. More for her, as I'm a Chicagoan and Blackhawks fan, but should be a fun time. She's a big Wings fan and I like hockey, so it works.
My wife would love that. She has no favorite team, but loves hockey and she would really enjoy something like that.
Fiance is in AA finishing up grad school before she joins me in Chicago this spring. Timing worked out really well
I'm heading back from Chi for the Classic as well. I seem to remember you are a fellow goalie...are you playing this winter? I signed up for the Chicago outdoor league again, but they moved our division down to the southside at Bobby Hull community rink, which is a hike.
My current living/parking situation makes skating pretty tough. Walking a couple blocks with equipment after skating doesn't appeal to me. Hopefully next year.
Similar living situation here. I don't have a car, so I always ask for a ride. Generally, people need goalies so they are willing to give me a lift, but it really prevents me from playing as regularly as I would like. The whole hockey availability situation has been the toughest thing for me coming from suburbia/Ann Arbor to the city.
Just picked it up actually. Friends have been playing for years and have been asking me to join them. Played football through college and semi-pro but never any hockey. I took to it quite well actually and once I got the skating down my skill level increased very quickly. Never watched a hockey game before either but I am really enjoying it. Watched the Ohio game last night but I still don't know much about the game. I know this really has nothing to do with the topic but I'm loving hockey and this is the first time I've gotten to talk about it here.
That's great to hear. I think hockey is the greatest sport on earth, but I've probably been saying that since age 4. Good luck in net
I'll always be a football first guy but hockey shooting up my list. Being a goalie certainly isn't as hard on my body. I'm getting old(er) and still enjoy the competition but I like not being sore the next day.
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So many people on this board and others have "won" the internet. The internet should be over by now...
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Because my parents read this blog, the secret might get out, but whatever - I will likely go with some form of jewelry as a lead-in to plans for wedding anniversary #10, which will be in early April. I will probably also get her some merchandise for her obsession with the CW show "Arrow", because for the moments when I am checking in and writing / modding, she will at least have something which reminds her of / depicts Stpehen Amell.
I've never gone wrong with such a purchase and will likely get her something in that area this year as well, but what exactly, I'm unsure.
So when you're not, it's your job to remind her of Stephen Amell?
Bet you rock the little green booties...
That is my present from her. Best part is that I can wear it for my few godforsaken months left in this state. Lame grad school.
True or false: My fiancee and I had our engagement pictures taken in matching versions of that shirt.
Pajamas seem to always be an easy one. Matching his-hers PJs are triple-good.
I see you're from the Chad Henne school of gift ideas.
Well duh, nudity and nudity. Shopping: Done.
Got the GF a spa day. You can find them good prices on groupon too.
Maybe one for her and our daughter so they can have a little bonding time. Thanks for that one.
her a hot tub.
Dude, all we really want is something meaningful. That's how I approach gift-giving--I look for something that has meaning. We don't care how much things cost. Things are things; they're ultimately inconsequential. But if you can think of something that's meaningful to her, well, that will be the jackpot gift.
For example, the best gift I ever got anyone was a 1981 Lite Brite from Ebay. My buddy posted a picture of himself as a kid holding up his (then) new Lite Brite he got for Christmas. So I found the same one and had it sent to him complete with Star Wars picture cutout things. He totally got a kick out of it. Was it expensive? Not really. Did he ever actually use it? Unclear. Was it thoughtful? Absolutely.
No one remembers gifts that aren't meaningful. If you get someone a necklace or a sweater or some perfume, will that really stick out ten years from now or even next year? Probably not.
That's why no one else will be able to tell you what a great gift idea is for your wife. If she's really your person (and I'm presuming she is!) you'll just KNOW. You'll pick up on something that she maybe mentioned in passing once upon a time or find an original print of her favorite book. That's what will stick out and that's what she'll remember.
I agree with you completely and think you would be 100% correct if it were most women. I don't want to paint my wife in a poor light, I married her after all, but she is a bit of a princess. She came from a very well-to-do family who only knew how to show their love by spending money. No hugs, no kisses, no affection whatsoever. I love you so here's a car type of business.
Now since her time with me and being around my family for 20 years that has changed to a degree, and I always try to throw thoughtful gifts in when I am shopping, but at Christmas time she often reverts to that girl who only knew she was loved because she got lots of presents under the tree.
So I will be trying to pick out those sentimental type gifts, but sadly I think I need some other ideas as well.
Why not come to Ann Arbor for the Winter Classic? Or more generally, DO something, rather than get her a THING. Once you have enough stuff, it just becomes more stuff. But what does she like to do? Does she love concerts, or the theater? Get great tickets to a show she really like. Anywhere she has ever really wanted to go? Plan a trip. It can even be next summer or something. Another city, another country. You're a big spender, you don't acquire more junk in the house, and you create memories that are probably more valuable than another piece of jewelry that will sit in a safe or something other than the one time a year she wears it.
I love this response. <3
but it's also nice to make it a combo.
My wife likes jewelry, but of course it's just a meaningless thing.
So, add some meaning to it by making it part of a memory.
First find a babysitter, then go out for dessert/drinks, then go for a walk or take her ice skating at night outside on Christmas eve and give it to her there. That can be x100 more meaningful than during the kid-inflicted chaos that can be Christmas morning.
Seroiusly, $100 bracelet + $50-100 misc, = $1000 memory.
"Crotchless panties" was the right answer?
I'll show myself out....
or maybe a new bowling ball
Damned girly but I've bought her several things so far. Let's see, a Kate spade purse, some fancy clogs she wanted, some fresh(that's a brand name) perfume and a rain jacket. Probably gonna add some random and or unique patterned socks. As well as some chocolate and other filler thingies. Nothing too big. Just random things I know she wanted.
So far I have tickets to the Dolphins game in Miami 12-29-13. There will be more.
to visit her dad and sisters... without my bored ass sitting on a couch in the other room!
My wife makes it easy because of her hobbies. She's into fitness, so I'll get her things that she needs for working out, not just clothes but maybe the latest piece of technology (she wants a FitBit to use for her workouts).
My next piece of advice, if you run out of ideas of THINGS you can get her...but get something that will give her memories of your time together. A spa day, I saw up above, is a good one or dinner at a nice place followed by a night at an expensive hotel...a Stay-cation type of thing. Signals are there, we as men aren't always tuned into hearing them very well...
I'm such a fashion-ista that I'm able to buy clothes/shoes for my gf/future wifey. It's a bit weird at times when I realize that I'm in the huge minority of males who can do so and not screw up royaly, but it helps in that I can always fall back and find something when nothing else comes to mind for gifts.
I like to get kitchen items. I know some chicks hate that, but I love functional things I can really use. Le Creuset is pretty and works wonderful! A dutch oven and cast iron skillet is essential. They are expensive but will last a lifetime, check outlet stores for a deal. They also make nice bakeware. Plus Cobalt and Dijon make a fine color scheme!
KitchenAid stand mixers are boss. High quality cookware, silicone utensils (no melting in a hot pan, fun colors, easy to clean) and GOOD knives, none of that cheap crap.
I also like getting some warm fuzzy socks and a good book. I don't do purses/shoes but for many that is an easy way to impress.
My husband is getting the empty PS4 and Xbox One boxes cause I'm nice and he using them already.
Protip 1: If she has a pinterest account, it's basically like a wishlist.
Protip 2: Men tend to want stuff they can use for something, women often just want pretty things simply to possess them. You might be racking your brain to figure out what she needs, but what you really should be doing is figuring out what her aesthetic style is and buy something that fits that.
Ding Ding Ding.
If your significant other has a Pinterest, figure out how to browse it. Since I've realized this, shopping for her has been a breeze.
If she doesn't have a Pinterest, try really hard to get her to start using it. I don't really get it to be honest, but I know if I go to her Pinterest, I can find a ton of gift ideas, usually with a link to purchase the item right there online. You could have all of her gifts purchased in an hour or less.
My wife explaining pinterest to me was actually what made me realize my 2nd protip above. It's basically a way to collect all the pretty things in the world and "own" them in a way. She said it satisfies a lot of the same desires as shopping does. As soon as she said that, I got why women love it so much.
By "positive" I mean "wildly optimistic for no apparent reason."
I'mma get Mrs. Biv a pair of those blue booty pants with "HAIL" on a leg that the girls wear to the football games. Admittedly this is at least as much for me as it is for her.
My husband bought me a blue kitchen aid mixer I really wanted this year and I love it. Here are some suggestions of things I think would be fabulous.
- Spa day... it shows you feel she deserves to be pampered.
- A beautiful picture frame with the two of you or your kids bonus points if you do both and tell her she is a wonderful wife and mother to your kids. Its inexpensive but it would be very heartfelt.
- A beautiful handmade quilt ordered from a place like ETSY ( its a website artisans use to sell their handmade crafts) Women love etsy and pinterest. This would be so amazing. It would feel special to me that my husband took the time to hunt and pick out something so romantic. It could become a family heirloom and its more of a unique idea than a peice of whatever popular jewelry is out there at the moment. There are quilters who will do custom quilts according to your color preferances or I have even seen Michigan theme quilts before. I would die of happiness and my husband would earn infinate brownie points if I was given a quilt.
- If she is a reader get her a book by her favorite writer,some colorful wool socks and a mug with specialty Coffee or Tea.
Epoxy finish for garage floor at our new home. Not exciting, unless you are my significant other.
My wife is easy to shop for...
I imagine that after the presentation my wife throws the item into a (now) massive box labeled "jewelry", the one next to the other boxes marked "jewelry", but she is always thrilled at the moment.
I'm an enabler.
parked in the garage with a big ass bow on it.
Short of that, a 3 month old Golden Retriever puppy.
60% of the time it works every time.
You and I are in the same boat. Thinking spa day, but the quilt idea, with socks could work too.
Keep up the great ideas- I need them!
Doing things and attending events never go out of style, unlike objects. That's usually my go-to on these qualms.
On a related note, I've been seeing someone for about a month, and now the holidays are upon us. I feel like I should take some sort of action around Christmastime (and here's where doing something together also trumps objects...early-stage relationship holidays), but does anyone have experience in this area? Holidays this early in the relationship are uncharted territory for me.
1 - talk about it. I'm not sure how old you are but depending on age/general plans for the holiday/etc you could always say "so Christmas is coming up.." not that you should invite this person to your family whatever, but you could see what their plans are. You could also agree on a price for gifts - that way one of you doesn't get a $25 present while the other gets a $200 something that turns into a "where is this going?" present.
2 - If you aren't at the point where you should do gifts, something small really can't hurt. I started dating my now fiance about 10 days before valentines day. She got me a small frame with a picture of us. I got her a rose (we were broke freshmen). Went well.
We're both 25 and our families are a thousand miles apart, so we're not quite at that stage.
She's already asked me what I'm doing for Christmas, but my travel plans home hadn't yet been worked out. I guess just talking about it would be the optimal solution and probably the obvious one, though I'm a fan of going in with ideas and a plan.
Kudos on the engagement and props on handling Valentine's day that well. Life comes at you fast sometimes, and clearly you reacted effectively.
The valentines day was 8+ years ago and we're not getting married until 2015 (when we'll have been dating 10 years) but yeah, worked out pretty well!
Edit: What am I doing?!?! My wife knows my Mgoblog handle. Nothing to see here.
I just bought her a new Nikon D5100 DSLR camera. She loves taking photos and videos of our kids, the dog, and her landscaping around the house. The current camera is many years old, so it was time.
I also have anniversary #25 coming up in February. I still haven't got the foggiest idea what to get her for that.
I just bought my wife a 50mm 1.8D portrait lens for her Nikon; she loved it. (You're welcome.)
According to my trusty anniversary gift chart . . 23rd is porcelin, 24th is silver (I'm sure you got her a ton of beautiful silver jewelry last year) and 25th is . . twine!
$17 for a 1000yrd spool at ACO Hardware and you're all set!
let me know how it works out.
straight cash, homie
I've found that it is the small things that seem to work best. Unfortunately, jewelry is small, so I don't want to imply that small means cheaper! Nice earrings, bracelets, and pendants are always a winner.
My wife likes to do knitting and needle point. I've bought her countless gadgets for these hobbies. Since I've done that, she now points out new gadgets and things that interest her making the job even easier for me.
She likes to collect Christmas ornaments and is nuts about anything to do with Halloween. So, I've bought many ornaments, figures, scary lighted trees, headstones, and other items that relate to these obsessions.
We always have family holiday dinners at our house, so she likes to have different things to mix things up when we entertain. At a craft show, we stumbled across an artesan that makes plates, bowls, and other things for the table in a variety of patterns so they are all unique. I bought her various pieces over the years and got her a "plate of the month" membership one year so we have a full set of plates to use.
She likes to cook and I've bought her variety of things that make cooking easier. An immersion blender (nice to have when making soups), a cool little garlic mincer, really nice baking sheets that don't get messed up and are great for cookies, etc. There's a lot of neat stuff at the cooking stores. Also, those stores have all kinds of vinegars, sauces, drink mixers, soup mixes, pastas, etc. that are fun to try. She's a salad junkie so high quality flavored vinegars (like really good balsamic or red wine) always score points.
We also instituted the "October rule". Once October rolls around, if you see something you like that you need, you can buy it, but you have to give it to the other party to use as a Christmas present. I usually get a few presents of clothes due to this rule.
So, just work around her interests/hobbies and you won't go wrong.
Goof Off, some WD-40, and Meyers Clean Day products. No shit, she said it was the best Christmas ever. So (obviously) she likes to clean and and do PM around the house. All I can say is JACKPOT!
The encore this year: A super plush king mattress set. I'm so gonna' get some.
I learned long ago that my wife is not so much into "things" as she is events. So this year, she gets courtside tickets to a mens UM B-ball game and dinner downtown AA at Grizzly Peak. It is actually a true night out as we live over an hour from AA.
As a wife, you know what I'd enjoy? A boxed set of DVDs for some miniseries or season of a well-regarded TV show with a note that we'd watch it together. Throw in some popcorn & fuzzy socks if you want to make it a whole package. It doesn't matter if we could (technically) get it on Netflix or the library--the intentionality of the gift and the fact that he picked it for us to enjoy together would mean a lot. I'd look forward to many hours together watching it (and it would be sweet to hear him say he was looking forward to that, himself).
A CD/playlist of music he'd put together for me would mean a lot as well. it might sound pedestrian but it's very personal. I have an affluent friend who is hard to buy for (she has everything already) but holy cow she goes ape for CDs I burn for her.
I only use one phone case myself, but I have a friend who switches hers up regularly and she loves the ones people buy for her. She has one for every sports team she follows, for example.
Gift certificate for cool classes (like the ones Zingermans offers) are awesome. Art, crafts, baking, etc.
My wife and I don't buy eachother gifts anymore (and we've only been married 4 years). You should institute that now.
My parents always buy for themselves, and have the other open the gifts. It seems to work well.
I just bought my wife Twin City socks and a Kimi Raikonnen mug. Fun times at our house.
but if you know ANYone in the military, there's a blanket that is infamous that is made primarily in Korea. They're called "mink" blankets, but they're not mink...but they are THE WARMEST blankets known to man. In the middle of winter, you can have the heat off in the house, be under this thing and be warm. The nice thing is that they can be customized with a color and a sewn on patch and be team oriented. I have a Michigan one, a Red Wings one, a Tigers one and a patriotic themed one. They're the best. Run about $35-50 depending on where they're purchased from. Put out the feelers to see if you know someone who knows someone in Korea.