MGoNewborn POSBANG Thread

Submitted by LKLIII on

Whelp, the thread title pretty much speaks for itself.  A short time ago I became a father for the first time!  She came into the world with gusto, weighing 7lbs 9oz.  Mother and baby are now sleeping comfortably.

For the MGoDads, MGoMoms, or MGoAunts/Uncles out there....

Any advice for me?  I'll get plenty of parenting advice from my friends and family in the real world, but what I'm hoping to hear are tips for:

1) How did having a newborn/infant/toddler in your life impact your Michigan fandom?  You can give abstract answers (i.e. "it made me care less and get a better perspective on things") to the practical (i.e. "the best way I've found to still watch a game with the young kid around is......")

2)  At some point I'm going to end up indoctrinating the hell out of her.  She's already got her Michigan onsie for the game tomorrow.  I'm fortunate in that my wife is a big UofM fan also and will be a partner in crime.  We live in Chicagoland, where the lion's share of college sports fans are either Illini or ND fans.  Any advice on introducing kids to sports, the team, etc?  Is ever too early to start?  Any cautionary tales about pushing the indoctrination too much? (The last thing I want is a rebellious daughter on my hands who decides to spend her college years in Columbus).

Thanks for the tips!  It's great to be a Michigan Wolverine!

Double-D

September 5th, 2014 at 2:26 PM ^

How many yards do you need for a 1st down? What are your options on 4th down and why? How many points for TD, EP, FG? Sing Hail to the Victors every night. Congrats. You will make mistakes but if she knows you love her every day you will make a great Dad....oh and skydiving.

lbpeley

September 5th, 2014 at 2:26 PM ^

Just watch the cussing once they hit 1-1/2 or so. You'd be amazed how they won't repeat "yes", "no", "mommy", or "daddy" but "you shit mothereffingc--ksucking ref you go to hell!!!111" they'll recite with ease in front anyone who'll listen.

jmdblue

September 5th, 2014 at 2:47 PM ^

Famously spilled a plate of spaghetti on herself at the age of 3.  She reacted with a disgusted "Jezzus Christ!!".... the entire room looked immediately at me....

MGoblu8

September 5th, 2014 at 3:29 PM ^

This is so true. My son (who's 4 now) asked my wife, "Can I say Goddamn?" She replied, "What did you say?" He, being a smart boy, refused to repeat the question. So she asked him, "Where did you hear that?" Of course, he points at me. This did not go well. The ironic part is that while I can't say that I never say it, my brothers in law say it about 5-10 times an hour. My wife did admit that. So, you have to check your friends and relatives too, because if you don't, you're going to get blamed for it.

ThWard

September 5th, 2014 at 2:29 PM ^

As a fellow Chicagoan MgoDad, here are some thoughts:

(1) The first month of being a parent is brutal. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. Nonstop waking up in the middle of the night just wears on you. The good news? Babies sleep way more than they're awake, which is clutch for football season. So, no, you probably won't be watching at the Diag, but you'll be surprised how easy babies are when it's not 3am. 

(2) I "care" the same about UM's outcome, but I can't prioritize game watching like I used to. However, I record every game on DVR and watch it after the fact. 

(3) Never too soon to indoctrinate. My son's first multiple-word phrase was Go Blue. He thinks all blue/yellow shirts are "Go Blue Michigan" shirts, and he's now learned the fight song. Those area a ways off for you, but not as much as you think!

 

Some of this is a tongue-in-cheek. Just enjoy man, being a parent is freaking awesome. I spent half of the Sugar Bowl and the entire Bama game rocking my fussy son to sleep. I considered it a gift from him to me for the Bama game... If you gotta take a break from UM FB for awhile, don't worry; it;ll be waiting for you when you and your little one are ready!

ThWard

September 5th, 2014 at 2:38 PM ^

Re: "nonstop waking up in the middle of the night." Best to have a rule between you and the misses that what is said to each other between 2am and 7 am stays between 2 am and 7am. Me and the MgoWife had some pretty heated Veronica Corningstone-Ron Burgundy verbal fights in the middle of the night when trying to figure out why we were such terrible parents that our son wouldn't sleep; sleep deprivation does that to you.

She once told me that I looked like a blueberry. That one kind of stung.

1989 UM GRAD

September 5th, 2014 at 4:26 PM ^

2023 UM Grad slept thru the nite when he was a week old and never looked back.

2026 UM Grad, on the other hand, was like satan for the first three months of her life.  She had reflux or some other nonsense and would only sleep in the infant carrier. 

carlos spicywiener

September 5th, 2014 at 2:38 PM ^

 

Any advice for me? I'll get plenty of parenting advice from my friends and family in the real world.

 

Life is improved with facial hair. It's a quality that my father passed down on to me, and you should pass down to your kid - a long luxurious mustache, combined with a resplendent mullet lets people know you're a manly man who isn't afraid to express himself. I went to Toys R Us and purchased my first plastic mustache at age 8.

The girls in 2nd grade gossiped over it. I grabbed a toothpick from the cafeteria, donned a hand-me-down jeans jacket, kicked my feet on the desk and told that teachin' lady the only letters I needed to know were U, S, and A - just as my pop said. (One of the few memories I have with him in our double-wide trailer - he left soon after) By 5th grade I was spitting tobacco into the juice cup my mom packed in my Dukes of Hazard lunch box.

GoWings2008

September 5th, 2014 at 2:30 PM ^

you should get a comment out on the thread so that the upvotes get to you.  The ones on the OP don't get applied.  You are the only one really deserving of the upvotes anyway.  Maybe they'll help you recover from the lack of sleep you're about to experience...

sadeto

September 5th, 2014 at 2:32 PM ^

How did having a newborn at the start of football season impact my life? I tried hard to name him "Tshimanga", thinking we could call him "Tim", but was voted down by his mom, who got first name rights. 

Seriously, congratulations to all, and just focus on being a great dad, fandom will come, and no matter how hard you try, she'll turn out to be her own girl, and in the end probably resemble you in more ways than you can see and she'll be willing to admit. 

club2230

September 5th, 2014 at 2:33 PM ^

Congrats.  Remember there is always something that has been written or that someone has done that tells you that you are parenting incorrectly.  Parents are always eager to give advice because they want to help and they may have a few things that were positives in their adventure.  This can overwhelm, so remember that all kids are different, with different personalities, skill sets, talents, and react to different stimuli.  What works for one may not work for another.  Learn to smile and nod politely.

I got my daughter a stuffed wolverine from the M Den which we named Charles.  We taught her to say "go blue".  She recognizes Michigan and football so when I get excited and shout during the game she says "go blue." 

Indoctrination is important from a fandom perspective, but I'm going to try to leave the academic side of it out.  If my daughters go to college I want them to be able to make an objective decision.  We like to joke about the poor academics at other schools, but when it comes down to it success academically and professionally is on the student and not the educator. 

I hope you enjoy yourself.  Kids are fun to have around.

Ray

September 5th, 2014 at 2:37 PM ^

Great news--congrats.  As someone who just dropped our youngest off for her freshman year at Michigan, my advice is to start saving now--especially if you plan to be out of state!

MGlobules

September 5th, 2014 at 2:40 PM ^

when Michigan scores. I scared the crap out of my daughter getting excited about games when she was an infant. Now she loves to watch football with me, so who knows. . . 

Sweet Life

September 5th, 2014 at 2:44 PM ^

Congratulations!  Welcome to life's greatest adventure.

My advice regarding your questions:

1) Remember that your family is more important than your fandom.  There will be times when the right decision is to record the game and watch it later

2) Rather than focusing on indoctrination, teach her to be a good fan.  When it comes time for college, if Columbus or some other place is best for her, give her your love and support.  You don't have to root for her school, but you do have to root for her.

evenyoubrutus

September 5th, 2014 at 3:18 PM ^

If you want to assure her fandom, you will have to verbally abuse her every day EXCEPT football Saturdays, so that she associates good feelings with Michigan Football. Other methods have been tried but nothing else is 100% effective. If you prefer to not go that route, you will have to just expose her to it and let her make the decision whether she likes it or not. Some kids just don't care about sports and there's nothing you can do about it.

skurnie

September 5th, 2014 at 2:45 PM ^

Edit: Forgot the most important part: CONGRATS. 

 

The first thing I ever bought my daughter was a Michigan Football sweatshirt. She's nearly four now and her first game was last year versus Indiana. She likes the band and screaming GO BLUE. Sometimes she throws her hat just like Dad.

Crash

September 5th, 2014 at 2:50 PM ^

Congratulation of course.

 

I'll tell you something Michigan related that I learned soon after becoming a dad.  My daughter was born on september 7th, so she was an infant during football season just like yours.  I found out how much I really love dvr and how much I really hate espn announcers for games.  I had to watch every game on mute (liked it better not hearing idiot announcers), and I constantly had to do little chores like bottle cleaning or diaper changing (so I iused the dvr).  

 

I know anyone with a dvr will already say "duh" because it's great to skip commercials, timeouts, halftime, etc.....but you really gain an extra appreciation for it when that kid is such a hog for attention.

nmumike

September 5th, 2014 at 2:51 PM ^

I have a 21 month-old son, and my sports watching has definitely been altered. It is difficult at times to watch the entire game live (as THWARD said, the first few months are brutal...), so I DVR many of the games to watch when the little guy is either napping, or in bed at night. That means I have to turn off my phone, but overall I can still watch every game, commercial free...He watched a few minutes of the App State game with me, and he will watch a little of this game just before bed...

The indoctrination portion: every night before bed, I sing the UM fight song, and just before putting him down I say go blue, and for the last two weeks, he has said go blue in return! 

Whatever you do with them, or want them to enjoy, just make it fun, and they will like it too! That is just my two cents. Again, congrats, being a Dad is an awesome thing, that is hard to explain, but amazing to do. 

MichiganTeacher

September 5th, 2014 at 2:53 PM ^

1) My children being born did not in any way diminish my passion for Michigan sports. If anything, being a parent increased it by making the time I have to indulge that passion more scarce. It's a huge change, as I'm sure you know, going from 0 kids to 1 kid. I spend way less time on sports and everything else in general now. But sometimes - like when a football game is on, or a big basketball game - I just say "This is daddy's time, I get to do something fun for me, too." The kids get it.

 

2) I don't know. I've wondered this myself. I'm not pushing anything too hard. My main strategy for raising future Wolverines has just been to make my enthusiasm contagious. Can't say it's working too well, but on the other hand, my oldest (a daughter) is still not in kindergarten. But yeah, I hear you on pushing it too hard, Last thing I want to do is force my kids to do something just because I like it.

MichiganG

September 5th, 2014 at 2:57 PM ^

Had my first a few months ago.  What I learned this past weekend is I need to cheer less suddenly, and less loudly.  Also, because that adjustment is difficult, it is important to DVR the game because you will need to spend time calming the baby who is concerned by your yelling.

jmdblue

September 5th, 2014 at 2:59 PM ^

1)  you've getting a world of people telling you what you need to do and how it's gonna be.  Some of this info is right and true and much of it isn't.  I promise your experience will be new and different every day.  Just keep your copy of "What to Expect" around for junior level advice/confirmation and you'll do great.

2) "You Know It's Great .. To Be.. A Michigan Wolverine" is the best family cheer ever.  I highly recommend it as soon as the kid can dance and celebrate and punch her little paw in the air.

3)  The Victors!

Congratulations!

74polSKA

September 5th, 2014 at 3:50 PM ^

I'm imagining my daughters walking out of my wife's nether regions and it just weirds me out for some reason. I was amazed how unfazed I was during the whole process though, so maybe it woudn't have shocked me.

ST3

September 5th, 2014 at 4:37 PM ^

The nurse asked if I wanted to cut the umbilical cord. I couldn't even do that. Of course, my son was born with his cord wrapped around his neck twice, so it got dicey for awhile. I was so freaked out about the whole thing I stopped eating and drinking, got dehydrated and developed a kidney stone. One week later I was in the hospital giving birth to my stone. I had heard of sympathy weight, but never a sympathy pregnancy.

74polSKA

September 5th, 2014 at 3:09 PM ^

My advice for fatherhood is this. Once you get into a routine with your new daughter, try to find a night once a week or every other week that you can give her mom a night off. I started this with my wife somewhat out of necessity about a year ago and I wish I had done it a lot sooner. It gives her some much needed relaxation and "normal" time (not mommy duty) and it gives me some awesome daddy time with my girls. Whatever you do, just enjoy this time because it goes by so fast!!

LKLIII

September 5th, 2014 at 3:20 PM ^

So apparently up votes get counted inky in replies and not OPs? I guess you learn something new every day. I'm not at a computer right now and only know how to post a photo from that (not my ipad or mobile device). Once the UofM onesie is on, I'll post a photo prior to the game. As for the "take the first feeding" advice---she is breast feeding. Although I've got Man Boobs, sadly, I can't help her directly in that department yet. Maybe we get bottles once were home but we don't get discharged from the hospital until tomorrow morning.

weasel3216

September 5th, 2014 at 3:22 PM ^

Congrats.

Like others have said. Sleep is gone for at least a month. I had premie twins so mine sleepless nights probably lasted longer than most. It doesn't last forever. This was my mindset the whole time.

My twins are 15 months so I am just starting to get them to cheer along. Touchdown is their favorite.