Apparently he won't invite his mum to the ceremony.
Malik McDowell to MSU (Per Ohio Insiders website, as discussed on Reddit)
credible here? not saying this is a far fetched claim.
I'm relying more on the Ohio Insiders website bit, but you're right. For this reason, I have been explicit about the sourcing.
Awkward family situation if true...
Good luck wherever he goes.
Go blue !
Work hard, study hard and it will pay off!
(Hope someone breaks it to him gently that they still have to go to class at MSU!!!)
or it didn't happen.
We just didn't execute.
Unfortunate situation all around. If he doesn't actually want to be a wolverine, it's better for all parties if he doesn't come to A2.
I don't know, I feel like you can learn to love something you didn't really like at first. Look at my relationship with brussel sprouts. My mom made me eat them and at first I hated them, but then she explained to me the deep tradition brussel sprouts had and even though they weren't widely liked these days how in the past they were the king of vegetables and eventually they were gong to regain their place at the top of the cruciferous vegetables. Now I love them, its the exact same thing with McDowell
It's hard to think of a time when Brussels sprouts were at the top of the list of cultivars of Brassica Oleracea. Think of the versatility of cabbage (slaw, kraut, stuffed). Sure the new hotness is Kale, but what kid truly would have ever chosen that. Not to mention Broccoli or Cauliflower. Consider also the fractal beauty that is the Romanesco Broccoli.
Would someone like to help establish a list of cruciferous cultivars and their analogous B1G universities?
I would suggest a cultivar like rapeseed (B napus) for OSU. Not for the name, but for the fact that it is an allopolyploid (basically results from inbreeding the offspring of two things that have no business mating).
One of the weirder recruiting situations Michigan has been involved in for a while. I hope for his sake whatever concerns his parents have about him staying to close to home don't mess up the kid's career.
seems like every year there's a recruit who is supposedly solid to UM early in the process but no commitment comes, and the recruit ends up somewhere else when the LOI is signed.
Yeah, and most years our team isn't a dumpster fire, so this shouldn't really shock anyone.
Nor was it this year. Disappointing, yes, but not a dumpster fire. Winning record and only one game we weren't in.
Did you watch any of the MSU, PSU, Nebraska, Akron, Uconn games?
Not to pile on, but throw K-State on that fire, though without Devin I give us a bit of a pass.
I'd say we were a "conditional dumpster fire." As in, conditional on the talent on the team, we were a dumpster fire, unlike a team like Miami U (NTM), who were an unconditional dumpster fire.
Those were some slightly larger "dumpster fires". Especially the one that was supposed to compete for the BIG title. (Is that right? Is that what our conference is called these days? I seriously have no idea. Just saw it on Iowa's court last night.)
If we were Purdue or Northwestern fans, our standards would be lower.
The family drama is a much bigger deal there. Both of his parents are adament against MSU, and not even because of fandom (like the Landon Collins mother incident). They didn't like MSU as much to start, but seemingly would have been OK with it initially, but after a couple visits and hearing things they completely turned against that idea. So if he still picks Sparty, I can't really imagine how they'd feel.
that we won't have to absolutely rely on 6-8 freshmen to play prominent roles. Hoke has 50 kids coming into their junior or reshirt sophomore years. This makes me happy, and it hopefully means that our freshmen are on the field because they're amazing rather than needed.
Good luck at MSU, MM.
I just don't see Malik going to MSU. If it does happen this could hurt his relationship with his mom for the rest of his life.
"bow bow" - Flockavelli
Will recover. Trust me. It may hurt his relationship with Michigan fans, but his mom is actually rooting for his success wherever he goes.
Well guess I won't set alarm to watch the announcement. Ill just wake up shortly after and check to see if the site is overloaded with positives or negatives. Have fun tomorrow!!
and be happy instead of caving into his parent's wishes. Logic, and that has proven to be less than an ubquitous commodity w/in the past decae: and ever declining, but....................I cannot know because I only signed one LOI and never advised anyone on what they should do. A man, and he is a man, as to do what he wants to do. What far too many peope don't get,and I don't know why, certain kids belong at certain schools. That is, afterall, what the recruiting process is all about. You fashion yourselves as best you can but just as calendar years begin a new beginning, so too does every coaching change, current win/loss records, records against arch-rivals, i.e., And let's be honest we haven't faired too well lately so justly, our rivals, including those in-state should reap the benefits. It is the team's duty to merit justification for the bullshit word exchange- which is good for both sides - to justify the fan's obnoxinous. As certainly as all MSU BB fans are begrudingly beginning to admit that UM, under coach B has owned their ass, it is our duty as football fans to recognize the same. Cycles, cycles, cycles. College sports have always been about such. Whether you liked RR or not-yes, he has beaten Ore in the past decade; something we've not- his words ring true, "We'll win when we deserve to win." Signing off from Tequila, yes me amigos there really is a town named that down here, OUT
Constantly thinks he knows better than the logic and wisdom of his parents, or somehow things have changed so much since we were teens that or experience no longer applies. Usually this is when he learns the old man may still know a thing or two the hard way: like how teachers like to give you pop quizzes after snow days to see if you did anything while you are out.
That family will be fine. It is not a dishonor to disagree, even with your parents. His mom loves him, that is why she is so vocal. Whatever he decides, ultimately she is his mom. If he didn't care at all, he wouldn't be so conflicted. This is tough on them, but ultimately, I think they will be fine. Their drama is just playing out in public, but most every family has it.
Tenet, not tenent.
If true, I'm not crushed. There are too many red flags to get horribly upset about missing out. However, it's worth the risk because of the talent (if he did want to go blue). It's kind of like picking up a hot chick at a dive bar. If it works out ok, then it was definitely worth the risk
... but there's a good chance you'll find out why she was at a dive bar by the time you get her home or wake up in the morning.
This whole recruitment was too weird. I have a feeling this will not work out well for Malik. Given how adamant his parents were about him not going to MSU, and how offended his mother was about something or other there, his father's "anywhere but MSU" attitude, given his focus on the party atmosphere (apparently), it all screams "problems down the road." Not rooting against him, just reflecting on what has been reported.
he was blue as a kid. warning signs for .... recruit other players. We need true Michigan men.
Momma aint gonna be happy
have to be played out so publicly. We've all forgotten what privacy looks like, or why a family might even want it.
Nobody is forcing anyone to hold curious ersatz announcement ceremonies with hats on a table, or anything else.
These things turn me off to the sport entirely. It's like NFL-Lite Draft Day. This is only a good thing for businesses like subscription recruiting services and 24-hour sports broadcasters.
Pretty sure privacy went out the window when everyone is crowding so they can be on camera too.
Hope he has a successful career and more importantly gets a degree.
I said yesterday, I'm hesitant about his character. Sure, he'd be worth the gamble because of his talent. But if he commits to UM I'll be a bit leery and if he goes elsewhere my disappoitment will include a dash of relief.
He's a kid and wants to go a different school. Let him be. I'm not sure what character issues you are referencing.
that his mother overheard him (happily) talking with other MSU players about how they don't have to go to class. The fact that his father explicitly said he has non-football friends Malik really needs to get away from.
Because you hated parties and loved going to class when you were 17/18?
You're conveniently ignoring the "not going to class" part of that equation.
How is that a character issue? What kid his age isn't excited about college parties? He could mature a little bit sure, but "character"...comon mang.
is much different than going as a student whose primary aim is to play football. I don't think any of us went to the U because we thought it was a party school and we wanted a non stop fun time. We knew it would be greuling work and the partying would be limited to the end of exams and the beginning of the semester with a few other times thrown in. Seems he wants to party and not get an education. We are decidedly NOT the place for that. State is much more along those lines ( not that you can't get a quality education there, but you have to actually try. At the U you are expected to be there for the education and you would have to work NOT to get an education )
Not buying it from this source. Now he may end up signing with state (in fact after his mom's most recent comments I suspect he "went to bed a spartan") but a recruitment this long, secretive and just plain weird ain't gonna leak a few hours before his announcement
For what it is worth Sam Webb says he doesn't have a clue where Malik is going as of this morning.
I think it is very important he makes his own choice. If its Sparty for partying, so be it. Things may change in a year or two. He may have enough of parties and focus on school and football at MSU. He may realize he wants something different and transfer. Or he may party himself out of football. Unfortunate, but so many other students do this and we don't pass judgment on them.
As to Malik and UM. It's obvious we're not the fit. It's unfortunate that our "family, school, football, and grow into an upstanding man" recruiting style isn't for all 17 year olds. Such is the decision Hoke and company have made for recruiting. It will cost is kids like Malik, but it can pay dividends in team cohesiveness, work ethic, etc. (time will tell how successful it will be, though I do prefer Hoke's approach compared to Saban's/Kiffin's/Meyer's).
I have no problem with us not getting him. The fit doesn't appear to be right for either side at this stage in Malik's life. Next.
that we clutch this mantle so close to our bosoms, but
I think the stance you take in that second paragraph is a really arrogant and borderline offensive way of looking at/explaining things. To say those things don't matter because he chose another school is ridiculous.
This assumption that choosing State or OSU over Michigan is because he doesn't want to grow into an upstanding young man is absurd, and it is absolutely why UofM's fanbase gets panned. MSU and OSU turn 17 year olds into men the same way as Michigan does, academics argument be damned.
I hate the assumption to that not choosing UM = bad person/hates school
What I was trying to convey is that it appears UM have a certain recruiting pitch: this is what is important to us.
That does not mean those things aren't important to Malik. I have no idea what is important to him. At the same time, he might be confident in his own ability to grow into a man, and want a school with more focus on something different. Or he may see that the style at MSU can grow him into the type of man he wants to be. Or he could just prefer partying--I don't know. From the information we have, he doesn't seem to want what we're offering.
With the second paragraph, I was trying to make an observation of our general recruiting style, and how it will appeal more to some students than others. There are athletes with certain mindsets that we might miss out on due to that stance.
This is definitely a better way of saying it, I appreciate the clarification. As I said, I just think it's dangerous to make assumptions on the character of a teenager based on school choice and I think you agree with me there.
State has put some defensive linemen in good positions to be drafted and play (as has Michigan; Branch, Martin, Graham, etc.) and the current state of MSU's program is more than enough of a selling point I'd think for a defensive player to choose them independent of any other factors. Recruits have said though, 'it's Michigan' so I have no doubts this perception will slide back in favor of UofM.
Can't win them all, just hope for Michigan to win the next H2H.
In my experience, it is easier for the son to make a mistake, admit it, and ask for his parent's forgiveness than it is for a son to get over the resentment at his parents for being forced into a life decision he doesn't want.
I have no idea of all of this media whirlwind is true or what. But if what we've been reading is mostly factual, then I hope he makes his own decision and owns it.
I'm not buying any rumors from buckeyes.
FWIW, Sam Webb just said that he thinks it comes down to MSU and U-M. Based on info he got late last night, he says McDowell is "torn." Earlier yesterday (around 6pm), Sam thought it was going to be MSU, but his thinking has now changed.
He also said if McDowell picks MSU, he thinks there won't be an NLI signed today.
Yeah...if the parents won't sign it, the NLI doesn't mean anything. That would be an interesting "ceremony" if it was the kid arguing with the mom and dad about whether to sign or not. Hopefully none of them have to suffer that embarrassment and can come to a mutual agreement.
He's the situation I was talking about
Just setting up some relief if he doesn't pick OSU. We've seen this before.
If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
But he should probably go where he wants to. It's not like MSU is a terrible place to go to school.
What about the ROUSes and the quicksand? I've heard it is an awful place and that the inhabitants are never allowed to leave. There's even a rumor of a man with six fingers!?! Nope, it's an awful place and you can't tell me any different.
"Nonsense. You're only saying that because no one ever has."
but there are other guys I've been more upset to lose. Good luck to him where he ends up, hope he's 0-4 against UM.
Obviously he is a huge talent in football, but aside from that I also respect the way he handled his recruitment. He didn't commit and then decommit and flip flop every 15 minutes like some. He wasn't using this time to hog the lime light and get his 15 minutes of fame. He kept quiet and played things close to the vest and pretty much refrained from taking the bait and naming leaders.
Obviously it is preferable to fans to have guys sign early and stcik to their commitments, but if a guy is going to wait until signing day to make his decision I can't think of a player who did it better than McDowell. I hope he chooses UM because he seem like he has a very good head on his shoulders, but good luck to him regardless.
At this point, it is probably for the best if he doesn't sign with UM. He clearly doesn't want to be here, and I'm doubting his parents will be happy with him at MSU. And if it is true that they want him out because of who he associates, that isn't good either. Wish him the best wherever he signs, but considering he had months to commit and never did, this never felt like a good setup.
Oh well. Best of luck to him.
This could be a classic announcement.
My disappointment is minimal. If he really dislikes the prospect of being in A2, then it's probably best for everybody that he go elsewhere. The last thing any team needs are high-profile players who don't buy in.
Not only that but I honestly believe all this "drama" is fake. The kid has wanted to go there and his parents seem to be really enjoying the attention of the recruiting process. Good luck to him either way.
mom and pop not wanting him to go to State angle always sounded bogus to me. I guarantee in no time State will use that to demonstrate what a great place State really is and how they converted the parents.
Too bad. Losing out on Damon Webb was worse, but i did think McDowell was the #2 recruit based purely on potential. Cannot deny the kids frame - with proper technique and a lot of work, this kid could be dynomite.
Since he is going elsewhere, lets just hope he continues to play too upright, and gets crushed by our tackles who use proper leverage.
I definitely like Lawrence Marshall 'right now' as a prospect - but man, McDowell's ceiling is just so, so high.
Would still love to have Webb but IMO getting Peppers offsets that loss. Malik is someone at a position of need and is a big loss especially since we didn't get Hand.
Because the coaching of our offensive lineman has look promising thus far under this staff?
What coaching staff gets credit for our tackles?
Pretty much recruited by one coaching staff, 75% coached up by the other coaching staff.
Hope they coach him up like will gholston.
and Lawrence Thomas.
If they wanted to be in the spotlight this past month, they've sure have gotten their wish.
What are we going to say then? Are we going to hope the best for him or are we sitting back waiting for a train wreck?
Both, with fingers crossed.
`They can have him after all this hoopla. Getting my popcorn ready.
I thought he was announcing at 9:30?
He hasn't yet, but the live stream is here: http://www.freep.com/livestream/article/20140205/SPORTS07/140205003/signing-day-malik-mcdowell-southfield
After hearing his dad talk and the look on his face MSU is going to be the choice.
Meaning that it's gonna be MSU.
What a soap opera.
* It's official: it's MSU, per WTKA.
Malik looks so uncomfortable feel bad for the kid I just hope he is going to the school for the right reasons and that his parents concerns are not legit.
Does it keep freezing for anyone else?
It's official MM to msu
Whether we want to admit it or not, this is a big miss for the coaching staff.
I'm not upset with how we've recruited whatsoever as the coaches have put together some great classes. And I'm in no way giving up on these coaches, I still believe they can and will succeed. But we can't sugar coat this after missing out on both Hand and MM.
Hopefully they put the full court press on KLS, Jashon Cornell, and Alabi, Settle, whoever. The "change to play early" selling point may not be too much of a stretch now.
A disappointment to be sure, but I'm not sure how Hoke & Co. can be held responsible for an 18-year old's preference for the social life at another school, which was apparently a big factor for MM. Would a much better 2013 season have swung his choice our way? Possibly, but I'm not sure it would have been a slam dunk.
As for Hand, nobody around here seemed to take his assertion that he wanted to be in an engineering program seriously, but Alabama made that an option for him. We can LOL till the cows come home about the difference between UM and AL when it comes to the respective strengths of our engineering programs, but it's not like Bama's program is an unaccredited diploma-mill engineering school in the Caribbean. To Hand, the possibility to play for a perennial NC contender while having at least the opportunity to pursue his engineering ambitions might well have been a no-brainer.
I don't "blame" the coaches for not getting MM to commit to Michigan, but nevertheless this is a big miss. IIRC, he grew up a huge Michigan fan, and his family's preference was well documented.
Maybe the prior season's records could have helped. Who knows. But it's a big miss and a big gain to one of our rivals.
Are you saying that we should have told him that he doesn't have to attend class? It sounds like the partying and MSU's lax attitude towards academics were selling points to him. That is not what Michigan should be selling, and if that is what it would have taken then he doesn't belong here and I hope that he goes 0-4 against Michigan.
You are putting words in my mouth that was never said or even implied. Well done!
Are we not allowed to say that the coaches missed on a player ever? If said player goes to another school, its always because that school paid him, allows him to skip class, etc?
No, I said none of that. I am simply stating that this was a big miss. I still have faith in our coaches and our team. We will be fine. But none of that dismisses the fact that we are missing out on a great athlete. I don't know what we could have done differenlty, possibly nothing at all.
I wish Malik the best, and hopefully this doesn't permanently ruin relationships with his parents. Go Blue.
It's difficult to see why any defensive player wouldn't choose MSU over Michigan. MSU has shut down pretty much every offense it's faced over the past two years and has sent numerous players to the pros. Right now, it looks like the difference between MSU and Michigan's defensive player development is the inverse of the difference in quality between the two engineering programs.
Signing to get a free education to play football.
Hoke's first (big) in-state recruiting loss to Dantonio if I am not mistaken?
Well, as long as he doesn't bodyslam a security guard, he should do well up there.
We've officially hit rock bottom. Congrats to MSU
Are you talking about?
that wants to be near his buds and is at odds with his parents over what school to attend? This doesn't sound like a situation that will lead to a kid doing well right away. Save the scholarship for someone next year that will be more talented.
Good for him. I know we are all taught to honor and respect our parents and their wishes, and undoubtedly without their own dedication, he would not have gotten to where he is. However, the fact of the matter is that he is essentially paying his own way through college and is about to head in to a part of his life where he is to commit pretty much of fiber of his being to football. He will live it, he will breathe it, and he'll have to find time in between to at least attempt getting an education. I dare say the next 4 years for him will be much much more difficult that I or his parents have ever done or will ever do. Yes, the advice of his parents are important, but it should not be the deciding factor. Kudos to him for making the decision he wants to make and shame on his parents if they don't support him for it. Good luck to kid.
Kids got to live his life.
Are you freaking kidding? Do you have children of your own?
No parent is morally obligated to support, condone, or approve of their child's decisions just because the kid wants something. If MM's parents truly believe that MSU (or whatever school) is a bad choice for tangible, serious reasons, they'd be abdicating their roles as responsible parents to simply turtle and yield.
Yes, I am a parent, thank you very much. On top of that, I was a kid once too, believe it or not. Thank fucking god when I was Malik McDowell's age and made my own decision that drastically went against what my parents wanted me to choose that they then themselves had the balls and common sense to eventually accept my decision and give me guidance down the path I decided to create for myself. I hope to be man enough to do the same when and if the time comes with my daughter.
Sure, they can attempt to persuade him before the decision, but to continue to disapprove of his decision after it has been made is petty and childish.
But wtf happen? I mean the last 14 months for me far as recruiting has been indifferent. losing treadwell, Campbell, hand, Malik, and Harris sucks. Those are players that would've put michigan up there. The d line was suppose to be crazy . I'm excited about michigan football, but I guess the only reason is because I'm a die hard. Treadwell was suppose to be our Julio jones. Campbell was suppose to our Calvin Johnson. I wish whatever this is michigan is going thru just would just go away.
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And when's Rojo's presser, heard he's blue for sure! But in all honesty best of luck to that kid, if Michigan isn't where he wants to be no shame in that...
Is Michigan doing something wrong with these supposed leans? Is this just something that happens and has happened in the past? Just feel like this is an every year thing.
We are not winning. Honestly I do not believe we are doing much wrong other than not winning. We will be fine. I know everyone claims youth is no excuse but just look at last seasons roster and look how many guys that made major contributions (at least minutes wise) were freshman, RS freshman or sophomores. The sky is not falling.
Welp, the excuse of Dantonio taking over the state solely because of RichRod is long over. Not that I thought it was a valid excuse before today, but now it's even more official.
MSU's program has a hell of a lot more momentum than ours right now. They're fresh off a Rose Bowl win, have a dominating defense that can potentially shut down anyone, and have kicked their instate rival to the curb for the last 5-6 years.
We're fresh off getting our asses kicked by a meh KSU squad, an uninspiring 7-6 season, along with little to no proven track record of player development, save for a few spots. That's not to say that things can't turn around for us, but it's very easy to see why McDowell picked MSU over us.
How many of the starters at MSU last year were underclassmen? I don't think people realize really how young and inexperienced the core of Michigan's team was last year, having experience and the natural development of being a 19 year old kid and a 22 year old man are a big difference.
this probably explains Peppers, Harris and others. I mean come on man, get a grip. Given the parent's comments I don't feel a bit bad for falling short of the criteria on which this decision was made.
Despite there being some truth in what you said, the reports on MM's recruitment indicate that those things were NOT the reason he chose MSU. If Hoke starts selling the parties, and lack of class attendance as positives (or at least brushing off those things as valid concerns by a recruit's parents) then he would be doing a disservice to the school and to the recruit. I don't think that there is a recruit out there that it talented enough to warrant that kind of an approach from Michigan.
You can point out the negatives of the last couple of years all you want (while overlooking the positives, such as our own stud recruits that should be getting more involved this year), but I don't think that it is fair to assume that 2012 and 2013 seasons are somehow the new normal. MSU's recent successes have been with teams that were very experienced and were being led by a coach that had been with the program for a significant period of time. As Hoke's team goes from being a very young one with uneven talent, to a more experienced one with more high end talent, we should be able to figure out a lot more about where this team is headed.
While I havent followed this story to much I did listen to his mothers lengthy interview. It seems to me his parents ...after hearing about the alcholol and women involved in his MSU recruitment AND other players telling him he didnt have to go to classes at MSU were very concerned about him going to MSU....Then apparently when they confronted MSU coaches they were brushed off...Isnt that what a GOOD parent should be doing?..Im on their side
I agree 100% with this...
I say that now because still no confirmation on the MSU side of things that Malik McDowell has actually sent his in.
@MarcGivlerBG McDowell just had a piece of paper with lines for his name and dad's. Not an LOI.
Sam Webb said watch carefully to see if he actually submitted a signed letter. He said MM is very conflicted.
There's been no LOI sent in on McDowell's behalf. The kids all had LOI's in front of them to sign. McDowell's paper was changed, from an LOI, to some other piece of paper.
What a weird day to become a "verbal."
There is something more going on here.
Kids are unpredictable. But it's fair to wonder how Michigan, whose two most prominent coaches are D-line experts, lost their top two D-line recruits. D-line is supposed to be the heart of this team. We got a couple good ones, though.
And kids are fickle, some more than others. Remeber last year when Ole Miss was all the rage? MSU had a great year, cracked the door open, and is reaping the benefits.
Dang the kid obviously wants to go to MSU. His mom should stop being such a helicopter parent and accept his decision.
None of us are privy to what happened on the official visit or interaction with coaches. If she did witness players telling Malik about skipping classes or feel disrespected by their coaching staff, I think any parent is within their rights to avoid what they feel may not be a good situation for her child.
Similar to how some parents choose to send their children to different high schools when they feel their child are running with the wrong crowd. There was already a red flag when McDowell transferred from Loyola to Southfield for his senior season.
Doesn't matter. The decision is not hers to make. She can try to persaude all she wants until signing day, but the time for that has now passed. He chose MSU, and she needs to get over it.
A guardian has to sign the LOI. There is clearly a strong reason why they don't want him at MSU, and personally, it is probably none of our business to judge them. We don't know Malik, his family, or the details of the situation at all.
Let me propose the reverse situation for you: If your parent really didn't want you to attend a school that badly, would you probably pick another school considering you have your choice of any school in the country?
He is still a kid. Not a legal adult. This is not all his decision, nor should it be if the parents feel there is a valid reason to keep him away from MSU. You obviously have no children, and I would guess are in your twenties, probably early twenties.
Look, I would love to have him from a talent perspective. But if he has friends in the SE Michigan area, its not like it is a tough drive to get down here to Columbus. And we have girls and booze as well. FSU would make more sense if you were worried about the friends, but that still doesn't mean he won't find trouble if that is his inclination. Heck they could send him to BYU, but if there is a will there is a way.
At some point, he has to make decisions and then live with the cosequences. They had 17 or 18 years to teach him that. My oldest is only 10, so I can't speak from parental experience, but I recall friends in high school that had been "good" kids and got in with a "bad" crowd and got in trouble. At some point in life we are going to make mistakes. And maybe that is what he needs to finally learn what his parents are telling him.
I hope you excel during 11 games per year and I look forward to Mason Cole, etc. destroying you in one game every year
It's your world. We're just living in it.
would refuse to back her sons decision. We hope as parents that our children, by the time they graduate High School (well almost) that they will think the process thru and conclude what is best. That being said, it is obvious that she Loves her son very much and wants to protect him at all cost, even by missing his NLI Day. Yet Mom needs to cut the apron strings and embrace his desire to go to East Lansing.