I just found out that kickoff for the UConn game is at 3:30, and wouldn't you know, that's the same day as my mother-in-law's 70th birthday party, which starts at 5. I'm in Chicago, so for me the game starts at 2:30, but still - I'm going to miss at least the last quarter. I told my husband my Sportstap app will be running in high gear. I'm also hoping for a mgoliveblog. This is gonna suck.
Life gets in the way of Michigan football
Jack Kennedy will be in by the fourth quarter.
okay to miss a second of The President.
You mean Nadar Furrha
Will she live to 75? If so, you could probably just catch that party.
"Honey, if you don't make me go, I promise you a night of serious fun.
... if we win."
Well since M will be up by about 50 by the time the party rolls around you should be able to enjoy yourself.
It is not every day that this is an equal opportunity problem ...
be a little late.
Just be fashionably late.
Willis beat me to it but really whats the big deal if you show up a little late. Thats what I would do.
My fiance and I are going to be at her folks place the weekend of Sept 4th doing wedding planning stuff and I've already been chastised for refusing to do tastings for the caterer or going to see a DJ because it would make me miss a quarter. Some things can be moved around at the cost of some brownie points (that's why we earn 'em, right?) and other things earn you brownie points because you can't. You have my condolences.
Do you? You'll learn. This is 15 years of married life speaking here. Women have two ledgers. The one keeps the balance of your so-called "brownie points". Then, you have the doghouse ledger. That one you don't see until she's ready to make a withdrawl.
I don't have 15 years' experience, but I'm hip to the game. What's more is that the exchange rate is worse than the new MGoPoints*! But, WK is a woman so, she probably doesn't even have to worry about it. Unless she's married to a dude, NTTAWWT, in which case, (he) still probably doesn't have to worry about it.
Luckily for me, my wife understands that Michigan Football is a big deal, and doesn't bat an eye when I make certain stubborn overatures. In fact, I'm pretty sure I've turned her. When the Alabama thing came up the discussion wasn't about whether or not I was going, it was whether or not she was coming with me. She's not, and is cool with it.
*I just couldn't resist a lay-up like that.
You, my friend, need to stand tall and set the precedent right now.
Very early on I established with my wife there are two things that are immutable: Michigan Football, and the Indianapolis 500. And though DVR has come along to deal with things like my son's football games overlapping wiht Michigan games, I have pretty much stuck to my guns. If you take a stand now, you can forever point back to it, and remind her that she was forwarned going in. She may grouse, but will have to admit she did know.
is why my fiance is even surprised. I met her at U of M and she saw (and even shared at that point) my love of Meeechigan football. But thank you for the reinforcement. Much appreciated.
It's far easier to have a wife who is a big enough fan to roll with it. Mine doesn't spend all day every day in the offseason reading MgoBlog, but she's a true fan. Every Saturday in the fall we spend watching football together. Strangely, it's part of what brought us together in the first place.
Considering your audience, I think the use of the word 'strangely' isn't necessary there.
Disclaimers: I don't want to sound alarmist, and I don't know you or your fiancee so don't take any of this as trying to insult, presuming attitudes, feelings, etc. But maizenbluenc is absolutely right - this situation should be resolved post haste.
Each spouse is entitled to have one or two "primary passions" - important things that really light your fire, and take precedence over the day-to-day. (When you have small kids, they become co-passions since they require so much critical attention).
If she doesn't understand your overriding passion for M football, has she really gotten to know you? On the other hand, if she does understand, why is she scheduling things to conflict with it? I'd also want to know why she wants to do cake, catering and music planning without you (i.e. will she secretly resent your forever?)
Otherwise you might walk down the path of many men for whom the icy stare of their wives have gradually but surely separated them from their hobbies, passions and very souls. To quote Detroit's first citizen Axel Foley, "they'll do it, I've seen 'em do it, it's not a pretty sight." This is not a joke.
I'm obviously coming at this from your male perspective, but this is gender-neutral - I see couples all the time where one wants the other to bench their passions for whatever the other thinks is of pressing importance at the time.
Maybe I wasn't quite clear enough. The first times put forward for these things by the vendors were during the game, which I poo-pooed. Everything has been schedule to not conflict with the game so I will get/have to take part in the tasting and evaluations and still get to watch everything from pre- to post-game coverage.
You are every Michigan man's dream!
What did she get you for your wedding? Does she buy you horrendous gifts for the home? M-I-L doesn't have a tv in the basement? or in the bedroom for when you get a "headache"? It's on ABC, she does have ABC.
If you don't already. M-I-L's love that. It'll buy you that final quarter.
Wedding that day at 2 EST. Daughter and I will be wearing our jerseys until 1PM, then changing for the wedding. Jersey goes back on at 3PM and watching the game until 5:45 when wedding clothes go back on for the reception at 6PM. We all make sacrifices, I suppose...
I have zero sympathy for you. I'll be in a remote post in Afghanistan for the duration of the season. Keep it in perspective, enjoy the game, enjoy your mother-in-law's party, not all of us will be so lucky.
My donated point. Good luck to you, Sir, and Godspeed.
I'm actually pretty excited that it will work out! that time between the wedding and reception will be spent in a buddy's new Michigan Man Cave - it should be a great time! Best wishes to you in your part of the world!
Good luck to you, sir. I have a healthy respect for keeping things in perspective.
You did choose to join the military did you not? I must have missed the draft.
where you started acting like a prick?
I swear I put a cover sheet on my TPS report. And if you're referring to the post on the new board format/point system, that wasn't even that bad. People whining about points annoy the shit out of me.
As for my above post, it was deserved. The dude leads with, "I have zero sympathy for you." to Wendy, wraps it in his service, and people fall all over themselves to kiss his ass. Look, I hope and pray the guy gets back safe, but it was his choice to join the military and go play cowboy over in BFE. That gets a ZERO out of five on the sympathy meter from me. We all make choices, he can deal with the consequences of his own without pulling a holier than thou bullshit.
But I definitely see your point. EVERYTHING on here, from points, to transferring players, to Football wins, don't mean much in the grand scheme. So every post could have one that says "I have no sympathy for you...". So, to single this one out, was kinda dickish. These things aren't that important. But it doesn't mean they don't have a reason to exist.
I can't believe you just went there. How about showing a little respect for the people who put their lives on the line to serve the rest of us.
the party can start without us. Priorities people. Never schedule anything on a Saturday during the season..except of course to watch Michigan football. There are 39 other Saturdays to schedule her party.
sarcasm meter reaches 11.5
I had to attend six weddings on football saturdays last year. I felt bad for the grooms, as they were clearly marrying women who did not understand the importance of football saturdays.
(BTW, Midland Chemics, Class of 2001)
We moved our wedding up a week from when she wanted to do it. Also, we will be back from the honeymoon friday night so I can watch the game on saturday. As a fun side note, yesterday she told me, "Only 16 days until we get married!" I said, "Only 23 more days until Michigan Football!" This did not make her smile.
I "watched" last year's Michigan/Notre Dame game with ESPN Gametracker on a Blackberry because of a wedding. Kickoff was at the exact same time as the start of the ceremony. They had no TV at the reception. And the kicker is that I had to stay sober because I had to drive 2 hours back home afterward.
Godspeed, young lady.
First of all, your husband has no freaking idea how lucky he is that his wife is upset about having to miss part of a Michigan game because of a birthday party.
Secondly, just don't go. It's very rude and incosiderate of people to schedule anything on a fall saturday. Eye-for-an-eye.
My girlfriend just booked us tickets to Atlanta for the Georgia Tech season opener. Needless to say, I'm skipping out at the half and heading over to an alumni bar or something.
But it's South Carolina State, bro!
I would dip out of the GT game and go watch the M game with you, but I'll be in New York.
Ha, the irony. I'd be in NY if it weren't for this trip. Either way, I'm not missing this game.
try a slingbox. i'm thinking of getting one for my new apartment and hooking it up to my In-laws satellite... or cable at my folks if it only works off cable. being able to stream it to a smart phone lets you be a good bf and a solid UM contributor.
I have a Hava box that I bought my parents but they just moved to Conn....wait a minute... YES! Only thing is, that thing drains battery on my iPhone. I like where your head's at!
With any luck the game will be safely in hand by halftime and you can go to the party worry free. We can dream right?
I purposely got married in the spring this year to avoid any conflicts with Michigan football.
I am still a bit upset that my sister got married in October and made me miss the Michigan-Purdue home game in 2001 when I was still a student.
God bless smartphones which will allow you to at least keep up with the game. Here's hoping we are well into the lead when you are at the party.
i immediately blurted LATE JUNE because i knew there wasn't shit going on
My dumbass cousin and her state fan fiance are having there wedding during the state game, I hope the wedding is later and its a noon kickoff. Or im going to Dvr and shut off my phone.
my dumbass self is getting married that day too. i warned her about the game so at least we moved the ceremony to 6pm. a 3:30 game would be over by then, right? please?
Done closer to 7 usually
you should have no obligation to go to that game. The cousin should have picked a better fiance. Or at least one who cared about the MSU game.
For the last 2 years, I have been in a weekend MBA program. Every Saturday for 2 years (not including breaks between quarters) has been occupied with full day classes. That meant no live football games. Fortunately (I guess), these were the 2 worst seasons in my lifetime (1975), so I guess I didn't miss much. Now that I'm done, I'm hoping for an upswing in Michigan's football fortunes, as I'll actually be able to catch a few games as they're happening!
Tis easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.
Honestly, we will be up by at least 2 touchdowns by the time you have to step away. We're going to be playing ANGRY against UConn. If there's any game that this team is going to play with a chip on their shoulder, it's this one.
I seem to go on vacation in the fall...watched last year's ND game at the pool bar in Maui, PSU '08 at a Hooters in Cancun (could've skipped that one), but am going to be in Israel this year for PSU (gone for 2 weeks and planned for one of the weeks to be the bye week). Anyone know any good sports bars in Tel Aviv? My wife, who does not watch football, has been pushing me to find one so I'm not grumpy all day. At least she understands priorities.
This game will ruin my streak of 8 years without missing a home game. Even last year I missed the gf's (now ex) dad's wedding to attend the PSU game.
My wife's dumb cousin, who I typically really like, and who professes to be a Michigan fan, got married last September 12, better known as "Tate... with a keeper... up the middle... to the HOUSE!" day. Talk about causing problems for a whole family. I was unofficially appointed the Mobile App Captain for the ceremony, and the groom was updated within minutes of kissing the bride. Jackass.
Boycotting all weddings now. I'm already missing my best friend's 21st in Vegas because it's on next year's OSU weekend. At least she's known me since 3rd grade so she understands the obsession, and I do feel bad.
Is she one of the friends who loves Disney sing-a-longs and hates everything awesome?
but she grew up in college (St. Rose in Albany), so much so that she stayed up there for the summer. Lucky. My internship may be better, but I still wish I was in Michigan.
Well, I am in Ann Arbor, but most of my friends are gone for the summer or busy with work. You might not be missing out on as much as you think (unless all your friends are here having raucous parties each evening, their wildest desires bought and paid for by endless funds earned in the illicit sex trafficking trade, in which case, sorry you're missing out)
Go late to the party. Tell your husband to deal with it. If he gives you any attitude, remind him how freekin lucky he is to have a wife that is such a huge Michigan fan that she is a long-standing member of MGoblog and finds the prospect of missing the 4th quarter of the opener to be a huge problem.
You are a wife to be treasured.
Since a few people on this thread have posted stories of their fandom (missing weddings / celebrations for Mich football), I have to put a few of mine on here:
1. When my wife and I were thinking about having a child a few years back, we decided to target a March, April or May birth, so that it would be well after the season, but not to close that we could not take our annual trip to AA for a game.
2. My brother was planning his engagement part on the date of the 2006 OSU game. He put down a small deposit on the place to hold the date. I told him that unless he picked a different weekend, I would not be able to attend (despite being his best man). I paid the $500 deposit that he couldn't get refunded when he moved it.
3. My wife's parents wanted to take us on vacation to Aruba for our anniversary. In September. We declined.
Sick? Maybe. Would I change a thing? No.
I had a cousin get married at the same time as the Michigan PSU game years ago. I had someone from the service staff wheel up a television to the back of the dining hall (at Indianwood CC). While the party ensued, myself and bunch of other guys watched the game. My cousin wasn't too happy, but oh well......the game was more important to me.
Your cousin sounds like a bit of a tool (no offense). First, he has the nerve to schedule a wedding on Mich PSU saturday? Then, he has the nerve to be critical of your awesome problem solving skills?
When the Dallas-Cincinnati game was on last week, she made disparaging noises about it being football season already. But, already she knows that on saturdays, college football is what's on. She'll sit down and watch with me, just rooting for whoever she feels like.
We live in Columbus now and sometimes she wishes I could be nice about OSU and that we could go and tailgate. She feels like I should support them so we can get along with our friends. Saying this she understands that I'm an alumnus and a fan and she deals with it.
But I will say that I know a two year old who if going to root for Michigan, definitely NOT the buckeyes, if I hand anything to say about it.
It hasn't caught up to me yet, but I have the opposite problem.
goes way back. My weekends have revolved around M football since I was 12. Thats when we moved to Cincinnati. The 70's. I would sit in the driveway on Saturdays in the fall and listen to WJR crackling thru the speakers, barely audible at times. My attitude for an entire week would hinge on the outcome. Then that last game in Nov would come and TV! Family events were planned around that game, or included it. So years pass. Whats changed? ABC, ESPN,BTN and I can drive to the Big House. Oh yeah, DVR in extreme cases.
I was standing in a wedding during the M Wisconsin game in 08. Needless to say, some wedding activities were put on hold!
The thing that sucks for me is that with the exception of the UConn game, I may miss every single game. We're going full tilt at GM wich means ten hour Saturdays too. The kick in balls is that we've been experiencing lots of downtime which means that the "volunteer" Saturdays can become mandatory to make up for the time lost. It's already happened once, and we've had lots of downtime since, so I'm pretty sure they'll just say the hell with it and make every Saturday mandatory.
She can wear it while you watch the game - bring her into the fold.
1. Get to watch the game.
2. Husband thinks you REALLY care about his family.
3. Husband owes you big (see above).
4. Future B-days and X Mass shopping a snap - all MGoBlog Store gear.
1. MIL may have 1,000 questions about the game that you have to answer.
2. She may want to watch all games with you.
3. Lose someone to fetch food and beers (MILs usually good for that)
Don't worry all the back ups will be in in the fourth quarter anyways. Seriously though I feel your pain I will be in Indiana and am praying that the game will be televised down there.
But it depends on the game. I'll be going back for 4 or 5 games this year but the other games (see UMass and BGSU) I honestly don't care if I miss.
For this guy yeah the season opener against UConn um no thanks I have plans. But I just can't stand the people who are like "I will never miss a Michigan game even if it's going to be a baby seal clubbing". It's pathetic because ya know what there are more important things in my life than watching Michigan curb stomp some FCS team.
Oh god, I agree with Bouje. What is the world coming to?
I promise. :)
It's because it's the first game. I've been waiting a long time to see them in action again, see what they're going to look like. I really wanted to enjoy the whole three hours of it, the live blogging, the yelling at the TV, etc. If this was a middle of the season game, I wouldn't mind so much.
My reply was more of to everyone in the thread saying "I WILL MISS A MICHIGAN FOOTBALL GAME OVER MY DEAD BODY!"
Really do you need to watch all of the UMass game?
It sucks when life gets in the way of Michigan football. If I have to go somewhere on game day, I tape the game so I can watch it when I get home. It's not the same as watching it live, but at least I can see what happened on every play.